Correction :
I didn’t “rage” seems like I misunderstood the term. I just sent a dry message and kept my calm.
(F, ADHD) I need a reality check because my brain is trying to convince me I’m the bad guy here. I’ve been working on a partnership with a friend for months doing 100% unpaid sweat equity where I built her entire business backend including the website and booking system.
The problem is I have a full-time paying corporate job and she has been so demanding that I’ve actually neglected my real job to meet her deadlines to the point where I almost got in serious trouble with my boss, plus I’ve sacrificed weeks of sleep trying to keep her happy. The breaking point was last night because we have a 2 hour time difference and she started blowing up my phone at 2 AM my time absolutely going off on me about tasks she thought should have been done weeks ago.
She demanded immediate fixes while I was trying to sleep so I could go to my actual job the next day and hit me with the "Honestly it’s not necessary I’m not your boss" line while simultaneously demanding I explain why things weren’t done instantly. When I tried to set a boundary saying I can’t continue this conversation in this tone she just doubled down so I finally snapped and told her I was stepping down effective immediately. She didn’t take it well and started spamming me with attacks saying I didn’t have the decency to honor anything and that she would be withdrawing "at least 2 weeks notice" which is insane for a volunteer role, plus accusing me of betrayal and having zero accountability. Then she told me she literally doesn’t have a laptop and can’t fix this herself or launch by the end of the week, meaning she was relying 100% on my free labor to be her IT department forever.
My husband warned me this was toxic and told me to take off the website offline since she didn’t pay me a dime, demand money to restore but I just gave her the logins and left, yet I still feel guilty for leaving her stranded. AITA? Should I have stayed and finished the work even if it meant weeks of abuse?
Ps. Need to add 3 important details : — she just decide without consulting me when she wants to launch and keeps pressuring me — she keeps requesting changes and fixes even ridiculous ones — she the website is 90% ready and only a few fixes that honestly shouldn’t have delayed the launch plus it’s not like she has people lining up to sign up, she could have used that energy on something else
Ps2. Oh did I say she’s a yoga teacher and claims to support “just causes”?