I want to preface this with saying that I’ve never done anything bad, I am a good cookie, and if I was a brownie I’d be chocolate chip.
Last Tuesday I (24f) found contact lenses next to my bf’s (23m) kitchen sink, which he normally only wears glasses so I thought it was weird. I asked my boyfriend about them and he told me he sometimes wears them when he goes to the gym so his glasses don’t fall off. When I later found more under the sink, I open up one of the cases because it wasn’t a brand I’d ever heard of (they looked like brand promoting cosplay lenses rather than the typical kind) to find a blue/ grey lenses.
He was on his way home from work and I flushed all of his lenses down the drain.
After confronting him about this and finding out he has brown eyes (they look nice for the record), they are just not the eyes I fell in love with and I feel like I’ve been lied to.
Then he goes as far as to tell me that one day he wants to have them permanantly changed. And continued to repeatedly bring up my nose job I never told him about prior to dating him as we all have things we’d like to change about ourselves.
I just don’t understand how he could have lied to me for so long, and I do regret flushing them now but I was angry and felt that I didn’t even know who he was at that point. AITA?
YTA for the first sentence alone. I’m not going to read on.
YTA! Your relationship is destined for failure. There’s no way I believe that was just about contacts and eye color.
If you have to preface something saying what a good cookie you are… You aren’t.
My partner could have no eyes and I’d still love him. Don’t use the ‘eyes I fell in love with’ line.
You’re shitty you got deceived.
By choosing that mindset, you don’t get to be mad about it since you deceived him about your surgery.
Honestly if you genuinely love him and support him, go to therapy and work through your shit.
YTA. Majorly. They were not your property to throw away, and contacts are expensive!
YTA. Is this even real? In what universe does taking expensive items from a loved one and destroying them out of spite NOT make you the asshole?
YTA. You destroyed someone else’s property in a snit.
If this “lie” was such an issue, BREAK UP.
Are you serious? YTA, because if someone’s getting a nose job, they are in no place to be lecturing anybody about changes they make to their appearance. Dude, it’s contact lenses – not permanent surgery. Moreover, flushing contacts down the drain is a loser move. I’m sorry, but they are valuable objects and can’t be flushed down because you’re upset.
“I want to preface this by saying that I’ve never done anything bad, I am a good cookie, and if I were a brownie, I’d be chocolate chip.” – The fact that you chose to start with this is befuddling.
Those lenses aren’t cheap either… some are, but the quality ones? I wonder how many sets she tossed out.
YTA, that was a very childish reaction and now you owe him both an apology and a lot of money. Contact lenses aren’t cheap
YTA and you already know it. How dare you flush his property? You owe him for the lenses and an apology.
YTA and possibly a lunatic?
I thought after reading the title that this would be an accident story, but no. You did it on purpose. YTA. Him misrepresenting his eye colour is a separate issue.
Yes you are TA. You never get rid of your partners things without them asking you to. You crossed a line and I would be really angry if I was him.
YTA. If you’re a chocolate chip brownie, those chips are probably actually small chunks of bullshit. Destroying his property was not the correct response to this. Only abusers think they have the right to destroy someone else’s things because they’re displeased with them. Reimburse him and go to therapy