I (M25) have been dating my girlfriend (22) for about 4 months. Yesterday she was showing me photos from her vacation about two years ago. In the pictures she was very fit and slim and looked noticeably different from now since she has gained quite some weight since then.
At some point she asked me if I find her body hotter back then compared to now. I reassured her that I find her attractive as she is now, as I have done many times before, and that I don’t mind a few extra pounds.
However, she kept pressuring me to answer her initial question, until I eventually admitted that her body was indeed hotter back then, which I am certain that she is aware of as she has expressed dissatisfaction with her own weight gain before.
Well, guess what happend next: She got mad at me and started crying. From her prespective I am the asshole now Am I or am I not?
You fell victim to one of the classic blunders! The most famous of which is, ‘never get involved in a land war in Asia,’ but only slightly less well-known is this: ‘never answer a woman’s question about how her body looks, no matter how much she pesters you.’
She played a stupid game and won a stupid prize.
You didn’t offer an unsolicited opinion, she demanded an answer. NTA.
Well, she played a stupid game, but it appears OP is not immune to iocaine powder as he won the stupid prize.
Both options were laced with the iocaine powder, so, while OP is NTA, he made a stupid call.
(Off subject, but, that devastating bit of news… just tragic. Rob Reiner was a magical director, both he and his wife were so talented!)
Don’t worry your relationship is only mostly dead…
Inconceivable!