Okay so we had a half day at school today and I hung out with my friend when we got out, we hung out until around 1:40ish cause I had to take her to a nail appointment. She left her stuff in my car cause I was meant to get her after the appointment but she texted and said her boyfriend was already out and could take her to swing by my house and grab her stuff. I tell her that’s fine just to tell me when shes almost here so I can meet her outside. She calls me and sounds like sad/mad. I ask if she’s okay , and she tells me she’s WALKING to my house and I obviously am concerned why cause I thought she had a ride. She said her boyfriend made her get out of the car and walk the rest of the way to my houses which was a little under 800 feet. Mind you his friend is in the car and she’s walking and they’re watching her walk. They pull up to my house and I go down there to talk to him cause wtf and they’re sitting in the car giggling and laughing and they pull off again. They come back and my friend gets in the car. Obviously I’m upset cause it’s 44 degrees outside feels like 37. So I do a little digging and find his mom’s Facebook account. I go to text her but I wanted to check with her that I had the right lady and she tells me to stop and that “she’s got it” and we did a little back and forth and she called me and sounded distressed and told me to stop so I haven’t texted her yet but I feel like I should cause I don’t want my friend to be in a relationship where stuff like that happens. So WIBTA ??
YTA.
Clearly she’s working through something in a relationship. If she wanted your help she would have asked you to let her in and asked them to leave and gotten a ride back to her place.
If you see that as such a red flag it’s worth losing a friendship- have at it.
but for the minor incident your seeing, no one ever likes the messenger. Even there were worse things going on you didn’t know about, having you insert her mother into it is just making it worse.
YWBTA because your friend directly asked you not to
Your friend is enabling this situation so
…. I mean…. You should probably get some more context before just messaging his mother….. And was this so called friend in the car potentially a woman???????? If so then oh yea text mom 100%
Why is your first instinct to talk to his mom instead of hers? I mean, if his mom raised him and he’s… distasteful, what makes you think that won’t make things worse?
YTA, do you know the full situation?? You don’t, why would you contact his mum?? that’s a bit weird for someone who doesn’t know the whole context, yeah fair enough bitch about how he shouldn’t’ve done that to her, when you are chatting to her but contact his mum when she told you not to, if you have a good distinction that he is being abusive or something close to that, then fair enough, better to be wrong than right in that situation but honestly it’s better to be there for your friend than to alienate her from yourself, just be careful
MYOB…
Nta. Call the mom!!!!
YWBTA. What do you think her mom’s going to do? Forbid her from making her own decisions? You’re supposed to be her friend not her parole officer.
Don’t insert yourself into someone else’s relationship issues. Support your friend. Listen when she vents. Listen to the good and the bad, don’t nag her to break up with him.
You don’t need to call anyone’s mom. Why you would jump to that? Sounds like they got in a fight and dealt with it immaturely. We have all been there, unfortunately.
Unless you see a repeated pattern of dismissive behavior and/or “pranks” that endanger her, let her solve her own relationship problems. It is not your place to talk to anyone else’s parents about things they are doing to anyone other than you.
NTA
This is misogyny
She may not care though 🤷♀️