My wife is mad at me because I while I am on vacation I take maybe 1-1.5 hours out of my day to make sure I have everything planned for my technicians for the day so theyre doing their job properly. I also answer calls to answer any questions builders or my techs may have so as to make my life easier when I go back into work. That is also allotted in the 1-1.5 hours. 30 minutes of that time she is still asleep in the morning. She says that the purpose of a vacation is to unplug from work, which I don’t necessarily disagree with, but why would I willingly choose to make my work week terrible when I go back? I feel like I can better unplug if I do that stuff than if I didnt do it then I would be constantly thinking about the chaos that I am causing. On top of all this i also get home as early as 12 a lot of days. Idk guys, AITA?
YTA
If you are having to do this you are either micro managing or you have not trained a person to take over from you. Your wife is right on this imo
YTA. Many jobs don’t allow you to work on vacation. Furthermore, you aren’t being present with your family.
You are also setting a precedent that other employees will do work on vacation
YTA. Im going to be very blunt. You could get hit by a bus tomorrow and your work will have replaced you before your body is in the ground.
If work cannot function without you there, they need to pay you more, but you also need to fully unplug. Your wife is completely correct.
Turn off your work calls. Spend the time with your wife.
Dude needs to get better at prepping his technicians before he leaves for vacation
+1. If you’re working on vacation, then you’re not really on vacation!
I don’t give a single solitary fuck about work outside the hours of 8-5 M-F. It’s very liberating.
YTA additionally for setting the expectation on your coworkers and subordinates that vacation time is for work.
YTA
You can set this up BEFORE YOUR TRIP so that work isnt a mess when you get back, and you sound too into your job where you make yourself available to your underlings instead of available to your wife
Yta. I wonder what your work life balance is when not on vacation. If you are wasting everyone’s time with 1 to 1.5 hours every day of work.
Your not truly present on vacation. I understand work pressure we are self employed and do occasionally have to work during vacation but not every day.
One of us checks the emails and if something is extremely urgent it is answered other than that it can wait.
It’s not fair to the people you are with.
My boss, when I went on my first vacation with my 2&3year old boys after 1.5years working, walked me to my mums car, knelt down, took my work phone and laptop and said to me, don’t worry about anything while you’re away, enjoy your time with your boys and parents. Anything we can’t figure out will be on your desk when you return lol.
It was the best vacation I’ve ever had!
Leave work at work. Do your kids need to know you’re 100% with them? Absolutely!
Does your work function without you, YES! Only YOU care about things being okay so when you return it won’t be difficult, but man, you need to shut off if you truly care…..
YTA
1) this sets your employees up to have a worse work/life balance. It’s bad leadership.
2) you should be preparing someone else to take this on. Plan ahead and invest for your future and theirs. That’s good leadership.
3) your wife wants your attention and presence, uninterrupted, for a few days. This is the most important of the three. Be present with her.
why are you not planning before you go on vacation? are your techs so hopeless they don’t know how to figure out their work for the day? are you the boss? why are you employing unreliable people? YTA 100%
Yta. Your wife is right. And I’m sorry, but it has to be said: if your team is so utterly useless without you that you feel you have to still WORK while on VACATION, you need to either train your people better or hire better, more trustworthy people. Literally the only two options. Figure it out before you don’t have a wife to go on vacation with.
From all your replies I don’t think you care if YTA. It seems like you were hoping everyone would pat you on the back and give you a cookie for being so loyal to work . I feel sad for your wife ,kids,and you since you’ll never be able to be fully present on a vacation with your family because of your employment .