Hi, for context, i F20 live with let’s say drew m23, today while house shopping i saw a comforter that was white, with pink flowers and light pink pillow cases. i’ve recently been embracing the color pink and truly fell in love with it. i put it in my cart with full intention on buying it for myself when drew says, “what is that.” i responded, “it’s a comforter, look how pretty” he sighs and looks at me saying, “i will not be having that in my house” this upset me and I, without thinking, said “are you really that insecure in your masculinity you don’t like the color pink?” he balls his fists, says “no, im not doing this” and walks off, leaving me in the aisle by myself. i stood there crying for like 3 minutes before i decided to find him. i left the cart with him and walked out to my car. being the one who drove i waited for him to finish. he came to the car, i sobbed the entire drive home, and we’ve been home 7 hours and have yet to speak. AITA?
Info: are you a couple and this was for your bed? If you are shopping for joint items, it would be good to have joint conversations about things and if the other has strongfeelings about something. You immediately attacking his masculinity isn’t the way to compromise. You picked out a feminine comforter, for your shared bed I’m assuming, then attacked him with his masculinity when he said no. If this is a relationship, you need to learn to have a conversation about if you both like something before insulting the other.
it is not a relationship, nor a shared bed!
Then why does he get a say in what you put on YOUR bed? Roommates don’t get to dictate how others decorate their own rooms.
Ok, then NTA. If you are a lodger, or house share, he can’t dictate what you put in your room. But what is he going to do when you have your period? Say you can’t put tampons in the cupboard? Might be best to have a convo about what happened and why he said no though, before attacking his masculinity.
Is this a roommate situation or living with a romantic partner situation because I’m extremely confused. 1) Why did his comment cause you to cry in the store and then sob the entire drive home? 2) Why didn’t you just buy the comforter?
If you’re just roommates, he doesn’t get to dictate how you decorate your own personal space in the house even if he’s the homeowner. If you’re romantic partners, he doesn’t get to unilaterally say no to items you want to buy for the household…especially if you’re paying for it with your own money.
Not going to give a judgement because there just isn’t enough info in the post to make a proper one.
NTA A roommate has no place telling you what you can and can’t buy
NTA. Why is he controlling what you put on your bed? It’s also YOUR house.
Also, pink is a very beautiful color.
NTA. pink is lovely, move out.
NTA
When I wanted to buy a bed cover with delicate flower embroidery, my husband said “I don’t care what the bed looks like as long as you are in it”.
He didn’t shame me for wanting something pretty.
NTA–it’s on your bed, not his. He was inappropriate and controlling.
If you have separate bedrooms, he truly should not give a damn. And regardless, should not have balled his fists and reacts like that. He’s weird.
NTA after confirming you’re not in a relationship nor do you share a bed. That being said, you both seem rather fragile, on opposite ends of that spectrum. But I’d say his aggression is rather alarming
This sounds like something AI would come up with……………………..