throwaway because some of my friends are on my main.
So i (23f) have a pretty flat body and honestly ive mostly accepted it. There was a time when i tried working out eating more doing all that stuff hoping my chest would gain some weight. It never did and it kinda messed with my head for a while but i moved on eventually.
My old friend group was super open about body stuff and we joked about everything. No one was sensitive about it and i was comfortable so it never really bothered me. We’ve drifted apart now and i have a new friend circle that im still trying to settle into.
There’s one girl in this group (22f) who is either really bad at social cues or just doesn’t know when to shut up. Once we were talking about bodies and she called me hot and i got awkward so i joked back saying i have the flattest body on earth.
A few days later during a group hangout she randomly brought it up while talking about something else and said stuff like well not as flat as her. I didn’t even know what she was replying to. Everyone laughed, i laughed too, but it felt off. Later i pulled her aside and told her im actually insecure about that and asked her to be more considerate next time.
After that she kinda stopped doing it in front of others but she would still bring it up when we were alone. Weirdly i didn’t mind as much then. I guess i shouldve told her to stop completely but i didn’t. I laughed along and even joined in sometimes calling myself plank board mosquito bite built etc.
Fast forward to another hangout and she suddenly starts throwing all those same insults at me but louder and in front of everyone. Stuff like yeah she’s basically built like a 12 year old boy or jokes about me having nothing there at all. It was humiliating. I went quiet hoping she’d notice but she didn’t. She kept going comment after comment like she was trying to get laughs out of everyone.
I finally lost it and said just because she has boobs doesnt mean shes better than anyone and maybe she should stop acting like thats her whole personality. It came out blunt and kinda ugly but i was done. She went quiet right after that.
After the hangout she texted me saying i couldve said it in a better way and then blocked me everywhere.
Now it’s become this whole thing in the group and most of the girls are siding with her saying i went too far and that i should’ve handled it better.
So AITA here?