I’ve been having this internal issue a lot lately. A little background on myself, I don’t like physical touch, I don’t like it when someone touches me and seeing it makes me feel uncomfortable as well, my friends know this. I’m happy that they are in a relationship I really am but when they lay on each other or do anything with that’s like really bad PDA I get really uncomfortable. They do this play fighting thing too that makes it feel so weird to see and the also tickle each other. I’ve brought this up to my friend group multiple times about how it makes me uncomfortable seeing and I’m always met with the same conversation. My friends say “Oh you’ll do that when in a relationship” or “That’s just how they show their love” and I understand that’s how they show their love but sometimes they take it to where they’re about to do it. One thing that also bothers me is when I hang out with them one of them will upset the other, then they don’t talk to each other, then they basically jump on each other to the point where the fact that we’re in public prevents anything else inappropriate from happening.
Sounds like you’re young. You’re NTA for getting uncomfortable, and I’m sure your friends could tone down the PDA, but it’s kind of a personal problem that you need to deal with on your own. You said that it makes you uncomfortable when they lay on each other. That’s pretty normal behavior for a couple, even in public.
Sorry I meant to say I don’t get uncomfortable when they lay or sit on each other. That stuff I’m ok with but it’s the other that makes it uncomfortable for me. Thank you though for your opinion
One thing I learned in therapy. Just because something is your problem it does not mean its also some one else’s problem. If its that big of a deal find new friends.
ESH. If they are play fighting and shit that can get annoying. I had a friend whose girlfriend always did a baby voice with me and they would constantly be play fighting (like slapping each other? Like kids!) I hated it lmao
YTA – this sounds like a you problem. If it makes you uncomfortable, then I suggest you find a way to deal with it or only be friends with single people. But it’s likely that those single people will then, at some point, be in a relationship, so you’ll be back in the same boat.
I’m not trying to be harsh, but you’ve told them you feel uncomfortable when they are affectionate with each other. They obviously agree with me if nothing has changed.
NAH
You all sound ***really young***\–and they sound like they’re running hot and cold and horny all at once. Normal for teenagers, which I assume you all are.
Just get up and leave when *you’re* uncomfortable. Either they’ll get the hint and chill, or you’ll all part ways and find friends and people more suited to your personal boundaries.
They’re not going to stop because you’re unhappy, and you sitting there being uncomfortable won’t do anything to make you happy either.
YTA for expecting others to change their behaviour to make you feel more comfortable
If you feel uncomfortable, it’s your responsibility to solve the problem. You could look away or leave or get professional help to understand and overcome your discomfort
It’s not fair to expect other people to not interact with their partners or each other in a tactile manner
People are allowed to tickle and cuddle and whatever else they want to do, as long as its SFW in public
YTA
Not for *being* uncomfortable, but for trying to police and control your friends’ harmless affectionate behavior, and guilt-tripping them when they don’t cater to you.
Discomfort is not harm. They’re not hurting you and they’re not doing it *at* you, they’re just enjoying life.
Just stay home
YTA,
Go to therapy if you have the means.
It’s fine if you don’t want to be touched. But thinking others should change a behavior that’s considered normal in society, AND is very harmless and doesn’t hurt others, is not fair.
That’s like if I was on a diet and expected everyone around me to not eat anything unhealthy in front of me. My personal choice or feelings do not get to dictate other people’s behavior.
If seeing people being physically affectionate bothers you to the point it interrupts your life, you should probably talk to a therapist about it.
YTA
If you don’t like watching PDA then don’t watch! You are the 1 with the problem & just because you have a problem watching it doesn’t mean it is their problem, quite the opposite it is your problem.
Just because you don’t like something doesn’t mean it should be changed. I don’t like a lot of things but that is MY problem & I don’t project it on to others to change it. Leave the room or don’t hang out with couples until you grow up or get a romantic interest of your own, it might be pretty lonely when all your friends have a partner.
YTA
While it’s great that you are comfortable to air your feelings towards your friend. This doesn’t mean you get to dictate their behaviour in their relationships.
I think you should maybe speak with someone about this….
Not for the fact that you don’t like physical touch.
But for thinking you have authority over people and what they can do around you! It doesn’t sounds healthy!