I’m a 30M. My brother’s wife and I had a disagreement over something minor. A few days later, she threatened to tell my brother and family that I did something completely false unless I backed her up on a lie she’d told about a separate situation.
I didn’t give in and told my brother exactly what happened. Turns out, she admitted later that she was just bored and wanted to stir things up for fun. Now she’s saying I betrayed her, and some family members think I should’ve kept quiet to avoid making things worse.
My brother believes me, but everything’s awkward now.
AITA?
NTA. Your SIL’s a total headcase and I have to question you brother’s judgement and relationship future if he’s hitching his horse to her wagon.
NTA. She is pulling the “it was just a joke, bro” maneuver. Very toxic on it’s own but saying it was out of boredom is worse
NTA BIG TIME!!!!
If shes a s—t starter then you have done the best thing ever by calling her on this and opening everyones eyes to her games!
Tell the fam saying you shouldve just kept the peace that if and when she pulls the same with them you aint backing them up and watch how fast they backtrack their stupid peace talk
NTA the worst thing to have done was to keep it a secret. That just allows her to have leverage over you in future. She made a mess, she is upset you dropped her in it instead of colluding with her to ignore it until such time as she could drop YOU in it.
NTA
But you need to be very careful and take necessary precautions because you KNOW she will stir shit
NTA. Your SIL is a butter to whom you owe exactly 0. Distance yourself before it becomes a false SA allegation the next time she’s “bored”
NTA
Sounds like your sister in law has a mental health disorder and needs help immediately.
>Now she’s saying I betrayed her
You did not exchange vows with her , nor swore loyalty to her. It makes more sense to be loyal to… your brother !!
>and some family members think I should’ve kept quiet to avoid making things worse.
Tell them to go f\*\*k themselves. Any family member who expects you to be a doormat or a non-boat-rocker to maintain peace, deserves to be firmly yelled at.
INFO: what made you think you were the AH to begin with?
She sounds like a bully tbh. You can’t betray her, you were never onboard with her plan, so NTA
Avoid SIL.
NTA, just shady af and so she
NTA but you know it won’t stop there right?
Your brother’s wife is a s**t stirrer. Keep your distance from her. Treat her like you would a venomous snake. You don’t go petting it but you can look at it when it’s in a glass enclosure. NTAH
> she admitted later that she was just bored and wanted to stir things up for fun.
Yea fuck her in particular.
NTA obviously and for me that clownshow would leave the relationship with SIL unrecoverable. She cannot be trusted and if in doubt she’s lying.
Yea, fuck this, fuck her and not sure about your brother.
I’d suggest a divorce.