EDIT POST: I am female and he is a male we always used to hangout when we were younger and our other siblings are like 5+ years older then us so we just hung out cause we are more closer in age. The Led lights broke and he isn’t the best with fixing things or following instructions. I’m sure he could have done it himself, I bought him the led lights. Nothing conflict like in the family that’s why it was weird to me!
I’m 19 and my cousin who is 16 recently moved closer to my house. We hang out since we live nearby. A few days ago, my cousin asked me to help install LED lights in their bedroom. I went over and helped.
The next day, one side of the lights stopped working. My cousin kept calling and FaceTiming me asking for help. I told I couldn’t come over because I had work in two hours and wanted to rest, but they kept insisting since we live close. I eventually agreed to stop by just to fix it.
When I arrived, his dad was home. I greeted him, told him I was there to fix the LED lights, and even had the box with me. He seemed fine with it. I went upstairs with my cousin, fixed the issue, and was packing up to leave.
Suddenly, his dad came upstairs and told my cousin to leave the room and go downstairs. Then he said to me and very abruptly said, “Get out right now. Leave. You can’t stay here, you can only come when your mom comes.” (I never had this issue) I was already leaving, but the tone and urgency made me feel uncomfortable and confused.
I didn’t argue and left immediately, but I still feel weird about it because I don’t understand what I did wrong. I wasn’t doing anything wrong, and no one had a problem with me being there until that moment.
So AITA for feeling uncomfortable and confused about how the situation was handled?
Not enough info, something else is going on.
Given the provided context, that is VERY weird, so I assume you’re not sharing the whole story or something else is going on that you aren’t aware of.
As written with the info provided, NTA.
NTA, you did absolutely nothing wrong, you went out of your way to be helpful to your cousin. It sounds like your cousins dad (your uncle?) is making some sort of assumption about you and why you’re there, which isn’t fair. I don’t know if he thinks you’re behaving inappropriately or what his problem is but you did nothing wrong or out of the ordinary based on what you said.
INFO: What gender are you and your cousin? Have you or your cousin ever been in any serious trouble? What type? Was it together? Why can’t a 16-year-old figure out how to plug in LED lights by him/herself? Are there any other serious issues going on with your cousin? Is your cousin in serious conflict with his/her parent/s?
I am female and he is a male we always used to play when we were younger and our other siblings are like 5+ years older then us so we just hung out cause we are more closer in age. The Led lights broke and he isn’t the best with fixing things or following instructions. I’m sure he could have done it himself, I bought him the led lights. Nothing conflict like in the family that’s why it was weird to me!
NTA, you didn’t do anything wrong, you were helping, were upfront about why you were there, and were already leaving. Being abruptly kicked out with no explanation would make anyone uncomfortable. That sounds like the dad’s issue, not yours.
NTA is there any chance your cousin is in danger and is asking you to be there? If you expect there’s any issue contact child services in the area you live in.
INFO do you know the dad well enough to ask for an explanation ?
If not, ask your mom to see what is going on.
I hope i am mistaken but the fact you are female and your cousin is male, may have something to do with it.
Agreed. OP. Either your cousin has an obsession with you, or one of you has a medical/psychological condition that the dad’s worried about. It could be that your cousin went through a withdrawal when you had other things to take care of. That’s not your fault. But there’s not enough details here.
Obsession is kinda crazy to say is it not normal for cousin to hangout like opposite genders I don’t understand that
I’m the second youngest of 15 cousins and we all did. Nobody I know would say that. Your family!
I used the word obsession to say that he might have an unhealthy dependency on you. The calls and texts he sent to you for something that could have waited sounded a bit obsessive. But if I’m wrong, I stand corrected
Your uncle has a dirty mind, perhaps he had issues when he was younger keeping his pants zipped. Do not go back there, only see your cousin at your parent’s house or in public.