So my s/o is a big nerd right. Obsessed with rhythm games. Like addicted. Bad. She was top 100 in the Fortnite thingy and every time im over she plays rhythm games, completely ignoring me. As im typing this she forced me to watch her nail a guitar hero solo. And as we speak she refuses to look at me, only at her game. Im not sure what to do, i fear shes become too addicted and i dont know how to stop her. I took her guitar out of her hand to try and knock her out of it but instead she just went on her phone and played project sekai. I bought her this guitar and game as a christmas present and i feel like i need to ask for it back. I still love her but im scared she loves rhythm games more. I’ve tried to stop her before, i took her gear away and hid it while she was sleeping and even deleted project sekai on her phone and factory reset it. She woke up in tears screaming for her guitar and I acted like I had no idea where it went. I eventually gave it back and acted like i found it. She paid attention to me for a little bit after this so i feel like i should keep doing it. I went out and bought her more rhythm games to continue doing this.
AITA?
Wth did I just read …
How old are you? Why are you with someone who isn’t showing you any form of interest? Why are you treating her like a toddler?
I mean… its toddler behavior. Literally disassociates from reality so hard she doesnt acknowledge anything, then when one way to play is taken away, she goes straight to another one no hesitation. I can shamefully but confidently say ive been absolutely been addicted to games my whole life. The worst i do is say “please hold on so i can finish blah blah blah”. This is just bizarre.
But yeah, its weird OP isnt dumping her. I know for a fact its a thing with her being amazing otherwise, but that means nothing when thats the minority of their time. And, OP really shouldnt take it to himself to actually hide her shit and fucking factory reset her phone? Like wtf???
ESH: you for messing with her stuff, her for how she treats you.
Have you tried to talk to her? These kind of things get resolved by communication. Have you tried telling her how her lack of attention towards you makes you feel?
You don’t mention your age so I’m going to assume you two are young adults.
Your S/O may indeed be addicted and that of course is a problem. Unfortunately, you are dealing with this in the wrong way. She is an adult and you don’t have any right to hide her things or to touch her phone so if course YTA. The two of you may not be compatible, you have to decide if you want to stay in this relationship and work on it (I suggest couple counselling) or walk away. What you can’t and shouldn’t do is control your S/O behaviour.
YTA, why are you inventing shit? You’re embarassing yourself man.
if you’re concerned that your gf is addicted, try and have a serious talk with her about it. being concerned is valid but hiding her things, taking them right out of her hands and sabotaging her accounts is what makes YTA.
and unless i understood wrong, you said you’re buying her more games so you can continue this behavior? YTA for sure.
Bro, enter her in tournaments and competitions and profit from it, and you won’t have to work anymore.
Be mature and have a conversation. I’m the kind of person that it literally drives me crazy and upsets me when something is misplaced. YTA for hiding her stuff instead of trying to initiate serious conversation. Also you have no business deleting or factory resetting her phone. Tbh that seems like a bigger red flag than her gaming addiction.
Yta she can force you unless she is holding you against your will. Then that is kidnapping. Sound more like you need to grow up and stand up for yourself instead of blaming orhers because you didn’t speak up.
NTA. She definitely sounds addicted. What would she do if you told her point blank that she has to choose between you and her games?
YTA Being manipulative and controlling doesn’t get a pass because someone is doing something they’re potentially addicted to. She’s your equal, act like it. Be an adult and have an adult conversation with her about your concerns for her health. Better yet, end the relationship until you learn how to treat your partner and work on your manipulative/controlling behaviors.
YTA. Not all addictions need to be handled. As long as she can handle her life it’s really not harmful to anyone. It’s no different from being a fitness enthusiast, gardening enthusiast, hiking junkie or anything else that a person can be passionate about.
The problem isn’t that she likes these games, the problem is that you don’t, and since it takes up a lot of her time you just aren’t compatible. This is not something that is fixable with pety theft or begging for attention. Sorry.
YTA. You are controlling. Yes, she is addicted to the games. But you need to accept your SO has more interest in the games than you, and you need to just let go and leave her. No drama, no ultimatums, just cut off contact and get on with your life.