My sister (27f) and her long-term partner (35m) recently got engaged on a 5-star all-inclusive family holiday that my parents paid for. They paid for the holiday for all of us as a treat/special occasion as my sister had a baby in February, so it would be his first holiday.
Since I was young, my parents have always been very clear with both of us that they would never pay for either of our weddings and that we could just have the wedding that we could afford. However, after their engagement, my parents told my sister and her partner that they would contribute a large sum so that they could get married sooner than if they had to save up the money to do so themselves. They did this because their baby has the last name as his dad, and my parents know that my sister would love to have the same name as the baby, so their contribution meant they could get married faster (just to be clear, it had nothing to do with the fact that she was an unwed mother – purely that my sister wanted the same name).
So, thanks to this money, they have now booked a date and venue which includes in the price around 15 pre-booked rooms for guests at around £300 each. My sister really wants my parents to have one of these rooms so that they can stay over and then also have breakfast with the other guests staying over in the morning. However, my parents are not very keen on spending £300 just for one room for one night (they usually stay in a Holiday Inn/Premier Inn when just travelling in the uk). So, they said to my sister that they would stay the whole evening of the wedding and party until it finishes but then get a taxi home (around half an hour away). This really upset my sister as she wanted them to be more involved and stay over.
So, privately I said to my sister that if she cared that much, then why didn’t their room cost come out of what my parents were contributing to the wedding in the first place? I said that they were giving my sister a lot of money initially and then were essentially charging them extra to actually stay at the wedding, which I didn’t understand. This made her really angry, and she said that I was guilt-tripping her into paying for my parents’ rooms. Later that night, she texted me saying that she couldn’t sleep as she was stressing about having to spend £300 for their room for one night and didn’t feel comfortable spending that sort of money.
So, AITAH for suggesting that my parents’ room price should have come out of what they’re contributing for the wedding in the first place?
So your sister can’t stomach spending £300 for a room for one night but she thinks your parents should? That other people should for the simple privilege of attending her wedding? She is out of line.
I really rofl when I read that.
The entitlement is unreal
NTA, you brought up a fair point to her and she reacted poorly.
NTA your parents were very generous. Your sister should pay for their stay or let them go home without trying to guilt tripping them.
It just goes to show that the £300 is a fairly significant amount of money for them, and they’re spending (at least) £4500 on the rooms.
The whole thing stinks, you are NTA
I mean it’s a 30 minute car ride back in the morning. I can see the logic of not spending that money when they can drive back if they want to. They may just not want to do that for various reasons.
Sister getting free money for wedding and still complaining about room? Not cool bro. Parents already helping big time, she should pay their room 😡
It would have been a whole lot cheaper for your sister to legally have her last name changed or have given the baby her last name to begin with.
NTA. If having her parents their is so important; that should have been configured into the cost.
Hang on a minute. Parents gave her significant $ for the wedding and then she asked them to pay extra for their room??!!
That’s bullshit. It’s extra bullshit considering they live 30 minutes away (I’d rather go home too). It’s extra extra bullshit since bride wants them their just, because.
No. Not just because. Bride has a baby and my guess is she wants the parents who are already paying for the wedding to also pay for the privilege of babysitting ie an extra room to spend the night so they will keep baby there but out of the honeymoon room.