So I took a flight to the city where my friends live, in order to celebrate their recent accomplishments. They were kind enough to let me stay with them for the duration of the weekend however, while I was there, they argued the ENTIRE time! I put up with it for a few days, but the last straw was when she locked him out of their home for 10 minutes! When I tried to let him in she proceeded to tell me to mind my business and not to open the door. I said that’s it! I don’t want to be in a toxic house and I don’t support domestic violence or abuse! Therefore, I packed my bags and went to a hotel for the remainder of my trip. AITAH or did I over react? Should I have been a good house guest and stayed since they allowed me into their home?
NTA: The wife told you to mind your own business and you did
NTA My friend used to do this and they rowed constantly. The last straw was when she locked him and his daughter out without a phone or wallet. I told her not to invite me around again until they split up.
They are still together 15 years later and she sorted her attitude out. But we aren’t as close as friends.
You didn’t overreact… you removed yourself from uncomfortable situation.
Constant Arguing and toxicity and you’re not obligated to sit there and witness it just because they’re your friends or because they offered a place to stay….
You handled it maturely by leaving instead of inserting yourself to big conflict.
NTA, This wasn’t a comfortable situation, you leaving was best for everyone.
NTA leaving aside any other comment on their relationship dynamic, if they didn’t want to moderate their behavior while you were there they shouldn’t have invited you to stay in the first place. They were terrible hosts. If they are blind to the toxicity of their relationship, and think acting like that with other people there is normal, perhaps it’s a good time for them to realize that it isn’t. Don’t apologize.
I had friends like that, they’d say “ that’s just how we talk!” My god, it got exhausting just being around them! NTA
NTA, good on you for leaving and respecting yourself. Maybe new friends are needed.
They are bad hosts. NTA
Wow, putting you in the middle with their childish, toxic behavior. Definitely NTA, I wouldn’t want to be around them either.
NTA, your move sounds reasonable. And you seem concerned about whether it made you a bad house guest, but I’m pretty sure there’s no etiquette rule that says you’re required to stay as a guest for as long as the hosts want you. To put it another way, “overstaying your welcome” is a bad move for a guest, but I’ve never heard of someone being criticized for “understaying” their welcome.
NTA. Sounds like an exhausting and uncomfortable situation. You did the right thing.
NTA – if they say anything to you about leaving, just let them know “*It was very uncomfortable for me to be around your arguments, and I worried that my presence was potentially adding to your stress. So I decided it was best to stay somewhere else.*”