throwaway bc he checks my reddit sometimes
me and my roommate alex 25m been in this place 6 months we both work different hours he does nights i do early mornins so we try to keep quiet when the other is sleepin
he works till midnight then comes home and likes to unwind with music loud bass the whole deal i told him a few times to keep it down after 11pm cause i gotta be up at 5 for work he says yeah sorry turns it down a little but still loud enough i hear it thru walls
last night he came in at 2am cranked music again i couldnt sleep tossed and turned till 3 finally banged on his door said dude turn it off i got work in two hours he opens door all annoyed says im bein dramatic its not that loud and he just got home
i said no its loud and its 2am you know my schedule turn it down or use headphones he got mad said i always complain and he cant live like this then this mornin i had to get up at 5 so i made coffee ran the shower normal mornin stuff he bangs on my door yellin that im bein petty for wakin him up on purpose
now hes givin me silent treatment says i shouldve just dealt with the music or worn earplugs i think if you know someone works early you dont blast music at 2am its basic roommate shit
tl;dr roommate blasts music at 2am i tell him to stop he gets mad when i make normal morning noise at 5am now wont talk to me
NTA your roommate is being ridiculous and a huge AH, he absolutely should be wearing headphones
I’m sorry. You’re getting ready to go to work at 5am and didn’t blast music while getting ready? Roommate got off easy.
Person playing music without headphones at 2am is always the asshole.
We live in a society, dammit.
NTA.
Your roommate is being an AH and inconsiderate by blaring music that late. Also sounds like with your schedules and the way you live you are not going to be compatible as roommates. You can’t have opposite schedules as roommates and want to play loud music and be loud in general. With those schedules you have to accept that you both have to be quiet for each other.
What doesn’t add up is this: “then this mornin i had to get up at 5 so i made coffee ran the shower normal mornin stuff he bangs on my door yellin that im bein petty for wakin him up on purpose”
Isn’t that what you would be doing every morning? Were you extra loud that morning? Is this the first time your roommate complained?
Anyway NTA unless you were also purposely being loud. Being petty might feel good but won’t help in a situation where you have to get along as roommates.
What was different about your morning routine after you guys argued at 2am, as you called it out specially?
NTA, but you sound incompatible as roommates. I suggest seeking a different place.
Not the AH. You normally getting up to make coffee and shower isn’t the same as coming home at 2AM and blasting music, and if your roommate can’t understand that difference then he’s dense af. He likely knows you did not make noise on purpose and is just saying that to try validate him playing loud music. If you were being petty, you would play your own loud music when you’re getting up and tell him to put ear plugs in lol. Comparing loud music in the middle of the night (which legally can result in an actual noise complaint) is completely different than quietly making coffee and taking a shower, how loud can those things be anyways? Not that loud. He’s just saying that to be an AH. Find a new roommate
Headphones exist for a reason. Move. Petty, selfish children almost never understand why they need to be considerate.
NTA. First off, I’m so sorry you’re dealing with this and it’s very unfair to you, friend. Your roommate is depriving you of your sleep and seems pretty darn selfish. I feel like I’m a great person to answer this because I’m similar to your roommate schedule wise. I go to bed VERY late, but my roommate goes to bed at 9. So, I am quite after then, ALWAYS. No loud music, no phone playing loud, and no talking loudly on the phone. Why? Because that’s normal sleeping hours and a valid request for her to make.
In the mornings, I sleep in till 10AM, but she wakes up early at 6AM. I don’t ask her not to shower, cook, etc because these are things she HAS to do. However I do ask that she close the doors lightly, keep her phone volume low, etc.
Tell him you’ve tried earbuds but they don’t work enough because of how loud he plays it (if that’s the case). Don’t put up with this bs, he can CERTAINLY put earbuds in if he wants to listen to music. Stay on his ass about this before biting your tongue ends up driving you crazy
It’s almost Christmas time, give him a pair of headphones, and then move out.
Nta and id actually be petty and blast music as I got ready.
Fucking hate people with loud music. You want it loud and to ruin your ears? Fine. Use headphones. Stop bothering other people.
NTA, but honestly there needs to be apartment complexes specifically for people who work night shifts, because I bet you are not the only person nearby that he is waking up with his loud music at 2am, but I also understand that those who work night shift deserve some time after their shift to unwind (even if that means listening to music for a bit).
NTA he needs a white noise machine if a shower noise is waking him up. Big difference between a shower volume and blaring music with wall shaking bass. Noise machine /box fan isn’t stopping loud music though.
The earplugs roommate recommends… he should be wearing and the earplugs can be attached to his music player so the plugs then play the music he’s inconveniencing you and others with.
If only the silent treatment was still active at 2 am.