So for context, me and my bf have been dating for 3 years and currently we’re doing long distance. Even though it’s been 3 years, he has never formally introduced me to his family but both our families know about us. Before doing long distance his brother and his fiancé came back home to celebrate their engagement. I was not invited to his engagement. I have texted his brother a couple of times to wish him for his birthday so I thought I’d wish him on his engagement. Keep in mind, both him and his fiancé never wished me or congratulated me on anything.
Fast forward to being long distance, my bf moved abroad where his brother and his fiancé lived. They decided to have their wedding there. During the wedding week, me and my bf got into an argument about something and I didn’t feel like talking him to a few days. 3-4 days after the wedding we started to cool off and talk to each other again. He was mad that I didn’t congratulate his brother and his wife on their wedding and they have apparently asked why I didn’t when everyone else was. He said he brushed it off and said that I was upset because we had an argument. He also brought up the fact that he texts my brother on special occasions and I told him that he does too.
I kinda felt bad about it so I did end up texting the wife but she didn’t reply to my message and it has been 3 days. I don’t really know what to feel about this.
Nta if they have never bothered congratulationing you on anything why do it back
I’m more concerned about your relationship with your boyfriend in general. You don’t really know each other’s loved ones, you don’t talk to each other for days when things aren’t going well…
I don’t know how old you are or if you plan to bridge the “long distance” gap one day, but the situation with your brother-in-law’s wedding is just one symptom of your somewhat shaky relationship: why congratulate them when they never do the same, but at the same time, you’ve never really been introduced, so why would they…
Right? Of course why wasn’t OP invited? Are they too young?
Sorry let me try to clear this. We did text but not properly during those 3-4 days. I’m in my early 20s and the others are pushing 30s
This shouldn’t even be a question. NTA
NTA your bf did not even formally introduced you to them
NTA, but this isn’t your biggest problem and you know this.
NTA. Somewhat narcissistic to expect texts from someone they did not invite.
AH – long distance relationship for three years…..lol. GTFU and find someone closer
Long distance for one year.
This relationship has run it’s course
Also ‘silent treatment’ is always the death of a LDR