ok so i made pasta for my parents today then i brought it to my bf’s house for lunch.
when he took the first bite he gave me a disgusted face then he ask me what is this and how did I make this. Why is it so watery. Does he have to finish it?
He kept making a disgusted face and acted like it was really hard to swallow the food.
I was really upset with him and confronted him about being unappreciative. And he replied with does this mean that in the future he just has to act like he likes my food is it so I won’t be mad.
But that’s literally not the point, the point is how he reacted and how he was being so unappreciative and cruel and unkind. He tried to turn it on me saying that I can’t take feedback.
Edit: sorry I wasn’t being clear but it wasn’t leftovers hahaha he actually knew I was going to make pasta for my parents and wanted to have it too! So I made an extra portion for him and instead of having him come to me, I volunteered to go to him with the food instead.
What are you trying to ask (like what action that you did are you trying to receive input on)?
I confronted him (very emotionally) telling him that I’m never doing anything nice for him again because he’s clearly unappreciative of what I do for him. And he’s saying that I’m just someone who can’t take feedback and he’s not rude or mean. So I’m trying to figure out whether I’m just too insensitive and overreacting to someone not liking the food I make
Even if it was bad, he was downright mean to you. Is that someone you wanna be with?
NTA – Bad meals happen to all of us, even the best of chefs. Being honest is one thing, but being unnecessarily demeaning and rude is another. OP should make her BF a chocolate pie to cover up that bad taste left in his mouth from the pasta. IYKYK 💅🏼
It’s not the pasta, it’s the rudeness. Adults don’t react like this. Find an adult male to date.
Tell him HOW you want him to tell you, when he doesn’t like your food.
Sit down and have the conversation. No one likes every food their partner likes, but it does sting a little when you labor over something you like, and your partner doesn’t like it.
So, I taught my husband and kids to say: “Sorry mom, I don’t like this. Thank you for making it, though!”
Then they are free to go make themselves something else, since I’m not a short order cook. When the kids were small, I would make them a sandwich, but as they grew, they could get their own food.
Extremely disrespectful. Hopefully they will never know what hunger is like.
I wouldn’t serve leftover pasta and expect a great reaction. There are many things that are good reheated, but pasta is highly variable and gets rubbery and watery easily.
Did you wait and eat with him? How was it? The texture and experience isn’t going to be the same as when you first put it together. Especially since you served it to your parents, presumably stuck around to see how they liked it, then packed it up and drove half an hour to BFs home.
If you went to impress someone with your cooking, cook for them. Don’t bring them the scraps from another meal and expect them to be impressed or even particularly appreciative. While I wouldn’t be rude about it, I would be honest. It’s better for you to know that this isn’t something you want to repeat. We learn from experience, and making mistakes.
ESH – bro could have shown more grace, you could have been a better cook. Sounds like y’all made for each other.
What is the question here? “AITA for making my boyfriend food and him acting like a jerk about it?” Do you really have to ask this?
Tbf both things can be valid. You put in lot of work and cooked but it can still be terrible food.
We have family friends who host sometimes and make multiple dishes that even look good but they are not tasty, ever.
Having said that, NTA but your BF is one rude AH
NTA My wife is pretty blunt about my cooking mistakes, and she would not have reacted this way. She would have taken a bite, chewed, swallowed, and said, “I really appreciate the effort but I think something went wrong with this recipe, it seems much more watery and mushy than it’s supposed to be. I don’t think I want to finish it, sorry.” And then she’d help me debug what went wrong. She’s a better cook than I am but she’s had her own cooking fails so we’re truthful but decent with each other when something goes wrong.
Out of curiosity, do you think there was something genuinely wrong with it or was he reacting to nothing? In your own opinion did it come out well? Did your parents like it? I do remember a girl cooking for me once back when I was dating and she gave me a beef patty that was basically a charcoal briquette and I have to admit I was a bit more “what is this nonsense” when that happened. If the food was in a state where an average, reasonable person would have rejected it as inedible, I would give him a bit more leeway, because there’s some responsibility on your side. If it seemed fine to you and fine to your parents, it’s all on him.
Even if I strongly dislike the food someone cooks for me, I find something I do like in the meal, I eat what I can, and bare minimum I compliment the effort they put in to cook for me. There is no excuse for this incredibly rude behavior.
Even as a kid going over to friends’ houses or when my older sibling was first learning to cook, I/we were kind, polite, and appreciative of the food. If I knew better as a 10 year old, why doesn’t your bf?