I am ’29M’ and have a girlfriend ’27F’, I am working on a software company and she is preparing for various govt exams.
We have.been in a relationship for last 3-4 years.
She wants to go expensive cafes and go for shopping and movies every month which I have to pay for and also fill her exam forms including it’s fees.
She had a couple of jobs before in which she fought and quit in the first one and in second one, shenbroke rule at a level that the college has to fire her.
Other than that she says she prepares for different exams haven’t cleared even first phase of any exam, I get to fill the forms but don’t have the right to ask her to study as I am not her father.
Since November she moved in with me as her coaching is near mybhouse and in the first month made me expend 50k on various thing she said she will use.
Her birthday is this month and I was planning to take her for dinner to a very upscale place but she said she wants an iphone 17 pro for her birthday which she will use for starting an vlog on insta and youtube.
I have my own expenses toamage(rent,bills, emi of a new laptop I had to buy, and another emi, day to day expenses of living here).
I suggested a cheaper phone like Google pixel or even the base model of the iphone but she said she only wants that one.
I said I will get her the phone but she will have to move back to her home and never contact me again, did i something wrong ?
You obviously have completely different ideas of how the financial dynamic in your relationship should look. Why hasn’t this been worked out in the 3-4 years you’ve been together?
Whenever I try to talk about something serious, she says she wants to talk about something else and change the topic.
When I said my budget is tight this month, she said she didn’t asked me to spend this much.
When she got the second job, her parents bought a house hoping she would handle the emi with her salary and they handled the down payment but after she lost the job after 4 months of starting, they have been paying the emi too.
I would not buy that, except if you both married and have kids. I think she see you as a provider mostly, and she expect princess treatment. I wouldnt want to be with a girl like this. But is your choice, if you like this then do it, but expect that gifts are getting more expensive and not less.
I thought that too, if we were married, i wouldn’t have minded buying her that phone but at this stage, even marrying her is on chance as she is sikh and she says her parents are quite religious and won’t approve of someone outside their religion unless the guy is ias or a rich
She is using you as an ATM. If she does not change, move on.
You spent 50k on her???????
C’mon man she’s been using the tf outta you
Sounds like she’s bringing you down man
Oh that’s fine. If she gifts something exactly as expensive.
She doesn’t have a job so she can’t
Wait, so you said you will buy her the phone as a break up gift?
Dont be someone cash-cow regardless of how hot she is. Mess with crazy and you likely get burn.
What cost 50k in a single month that she will use? A Porsche??