I 18F ( teenage too shocker ) had a really long day and didn’t have time to eat cause of it. For past month I’ve also felt that my depression might be coming back so I wasn’t in the happiest mood. Finally at 5pm I could go into a store buy some sweet dreamy food and eat at home hopefully by 6pm. After getting everything at the grocery store I was on my way home. The grocery store was in a supermarket so I had to walk threw it to leave. 7 teenagers were walking shoulder to shoulder infont of me and I couldn’t pass them without pushing someone and I really wasn’t in a mood for a small talk.. or any social interaction really. So I just walked few meters behind them thinking about how to make time for my hobbies while keeping up with school. Some guys from that group turned to me eventually and said "cool hair" to which I nodded and said thanks. Few second after I added "Please move out of my way, yall are taking up this whole space" I said it in a pretty quiet tone while looking down. After I passed them one of the girls said "Fine we won’t talk to you since we’re taking up this whole space" In a clearly annoyed voice. It didn’t really hit me what untill I was about 100meters from the supermarket and at that point was too late to return, find them and properly apologize and explain the situation.
I hope they realize I was just in a really bad mood and didn’t take it personally.
Sorry if this seems boring but I genuinely feel like an A and want second,third and any other person’s opinion on this..
Also my apologies, English isn’t my first language.
NTA. It’s a pathway, not a place for them to chitchat or be walking all together as if they’re in an open field with a lot of space. They’re strangers, sometimes just have to let it go and move on.
NOR they dont deserve an apology.they were blocking the entire space.
NTA. The girl who commented about “not talking to you” hadn’t been talking to you in the first place. Her comment was just stupid. I wouldn’t overthink it or be concerned. I hope you went home to enjoy your food.
Hopefully they’ll be mature enough to realise that they were being inconsiderate and you were just having a shit time. You didn’t traumatise anyone or hurt any feelings, you were just not super polite – and neither were they.
Please don’t beat yourself up. NTA.
NTA. I think it would be come off better if you said it with more tact (e.g. “Excuse you, do you mind?”) or just say “excuse me” and that would have achieved the same outcome. The comment “you are taking up this whole space” can come off as unintentionally insulting but it’s not really a big deal and most people would just brush it off.
NTA. You weren’t rude in this instance, you just stated that they were taking up the space. You could’ve been nice, sure, but you didn’t do anything wrong.
You owe them nothing. They were being inconsiderate and you appropriately let them know that they don’t live in isolation and the walkway doesn’t belong to them. It’s a public walkway and walking 6 abreast is rude. The only other place I’ve seen this is at Costco, of all places, but I digress.
And stop apologizing for everything. Your english is fine and so is your willingness to speak up for yourself despite any insecurities you might have at this stage in your life.
PS: Who cares whether some random person threatens to not talk to you. You’ve lived well enough without ever having talked to any of them before this incident and you’ll be fine long after they’re gone. Besides, people respect those who speak up for themselves much more than they respect those who grovel at their feet.
I hope you feel better soon.
NTA
NTA.
The group were being AH by walking 7 across. Especially as it seems they were walking slowly. The girl’s annoyance was at being called out for doing something that was clearly rude.
You were polite. There is no requirement that you engage socially with random people on the street.
NTA and who cares, I know you’re in your head about it but I cannot stress enough how inconsequential this moment was.
They were taking up a walk space, you asked if they could move in civil enough way. They tried chatting with you and you weren’t mean about it, and the comment the girl made after is just catty/petty noise.
You’re teenagers, everything about life is a little extra dramatic feeling for a few more years at least, but I promise you that this moment was nothing. You were not a bad person and really neither were they, they’re just acting like a teenager albeit annoying.
Get your food, get your sleep, drink some water, and stop thinking about it.
“This too shall pass”
Soft Yta, all you have to say is “ pardon me”. You shouldn’t excuse yourself because you are in a bad mood.
A bit of an E S H but mostly them.
They shouldn’t block the way, but “May I pass through?” or “Pardon me” would be a politer way of pointing out that they were acting as a human blockade. I hesitate to judge you as you had a long day and blocking the way is obviously rude behavior on their parts.
NTA – you did nothing wrong, and you never owed them an explanation of your mood or anything.
Your rude phrasing made you TA. They were in your way, but were also kind to you with the compliment.
“Excuse me, please. ” is an example of a polite way to ask them to let you pass.
NTA. You needed to get past, they were impeding your way. It’s more about common courtesy than you being in a bad mood. They should’ve been aware of their surroundings.