I’m writing this because I can’t stop thinking about this and I need to know if anyone can help me from the outside.
I (38M) have been in a relationship with Sonia (35F) for eight months. Until now, I thought she was the woman of my dreams, and I was considering taking the relationship to the next level.
I’ve loved pro wrestling since I was six years old. A friend of my parents showed me a tape of SummerSlam 1992, and seeing the Road Warriors coming down the ramp on motorcycles, with their spiked shoulder pads and makeup, captivated me from the first moment.
Since then, I’ve watched almost everything. From the Monday Night Wars (I’m a WCW guy), to the Attitude Era and the Ruthless Aggression Era. And when I got internet, I immersed myself in puroresu, lucha libre, and other companies like ROH, Chikara, PWG, the European scene, and so on.
The thing is, my girlfriend has never had a problem with my hobby. In fact, I’ve never neglected her to watch a show or anything like that. But two days ago, she came to my house straight from work in a terrible mood, and when I asked her why, she said she realized I have a "little kid" hobby (I live in Spain, and pro wrestling isn’t as popular as in the US, Japan, or Mexico). She told her coworkers about it, and they laughed at her for dating someone immature with a childish mentality.
She said it opened her eyes and that if she wanted the relationship to work, she had to stop watching wrestling.
I asked if that was an ultimatum, and she said I could take it however I wanted, but I had to make a decision.
I told her that the mere fact that she was making me choose because she felt insecure about a hobby that doesn’t hurt anyone said a lot about how easily influenced (by her coworkers) she is, and that unfortunately, I couldn’t continue with someone like that, so I ended the relationship.
She didn’t take it well. She yelled at me, told me I’d never find anyone like her, that I’d die alone, and even that I have homosexual tendencies "because I like seeing men in tights."
Since then, some of my friends and her friends have been bombarding me with messages calling me a coward, an idiot, and an asshole.
My family supports me, but they also tell me I could have handled it better.
What do you think? AITA for breaking up with my girlfriend because she made me choose between my hobby and her?
NTA bro nothing else needs to be said you’re not even the one who pressed the issue
She fucked around and found out
Harmless hobby. Enjoy it! Nta
NTA, also the people that are “your friends” that are calling you a coward for sticking up for yourself aren’t really your friends either.
NTA. Sounds like she cares more about what her friends think than what your relationship means.
I love all things Star Wars. I grew up with it (I was a 70’s/80’s kid) and to this day I still love it. My PC room is full of Star Wars stuff from the past and the present. My wife doesn’t get it, but she supports me 100% (heck, she’s responsible for some of the coolest things in the room).
You need to find someone who just gets you.
NTA and that’s the bottom line because Stone Cold said so.
NTA. She went into this relationship with you knowing you were a pro wrestling fan. She’s seen you be a pro wrestling fan for 8 months and now only has beef with it because of peer pressure. At 35, to be that susceptible to peer pressure speaks volumes about her own maturity.
NTA
My boyfriend also really like wrestling. It was a bit of a surprise for me because wrestling is kinda considered a “white trash” interest in our area but I’ve always supported him.
I like that he has passions that I don’t share and I can literally listen to him talk about it for hours because I like when he’s happy and he enjoys sharing it with me. He also listens to me when I go on a rant about my own passions lol.
NTA – Because STONE COLD SAID SO!!!!!!!!
NTA, this is insecurity projection at its finest. Even the whole “you’re going to die alone” thing sounds like a thought she believes about herself, not you. Nachoooo
NTA.
She is a total jerk.
“You ll never find someone like me”
I Fucking hope so.
“May this kind of love never find me”
When giving an ultimatum, one must be prepared to accept the “or else” option.
NTA. She’s a bigot and an asshole. Good riddance.
Anyone who tells you to pick between them and your hobbies when your hobbies aren’t affecting them at all can go. Ditto to anyone using “homosexual tendencies” as an insult.
Also, pro wrestling is cool. Find someone who enjoys it, or at least doesn’t despise it.
Wrestling would never threaten to leave you. Wrestling would suplex a 300 pound man through a table just to see you smile.