I (18M) and my brother (20M.) Got into an argument because my friends and I are planning to go paintballing, and my family started telling me my brother would want to go too. I said I wasn’t sure because he’s extremely sensitive to pain he’ll literally cry over a splinter or get really worked up over minor things. I never said he couldn’t go. If he wants to try it, that’s fine. He’s an adult. But it’s not my responsibility to babysit him or leave my game to comfort him if he gets hurt. I just want to enjoy time with my friends without feeling responsible for managing his reactions. My sister immediately jumped on me, saying I was being an asshole and “excluding him" just because I don’t think he’d like it. I told her I’m not obligated to include him in everything I do, especially when past experiences show he gets overly upset, angry, or dramatic over small injuries or competitive situations.
Now there’s tension, and I’m being told I’m selfish for wanting to hang out with my friends without worrying about my brother melting down.
AITA?