My roommate is my aunt who has COPD and Asthma. I hate the smell of smoke and since before we’ve shared a room I’ve asked her to smoke in the living room instead or made it abundantly clear. I smoke weed myself which she hates but I NEVER do it in our shared enclosed bedroom because I know she hates the smell. I will even go without smoking so I don’t accidentally bring the smell with me. Recently she blew up at me for asking her not to smoke in our bedroom again and gets very defensive. So I’ve started opening a door or window to let some air in and smoke out. She likes to angrily slam it shut. There’s a lot of background info to why were rooming together but I’ll keep this short. Am I the asshole for opening a window or door when my aunt smokes?
NTA. She is smoking cigarettes but has a problem with the smell of weed? And not only that but she has asthma and COPD? She’s one of those who literally will smoke till she’s dead? Sorry, I digress. But honestly you two need to find a compromise. You room together and you both smoke \*something\* so work it out.
NTA.
Why’re they smoking indoors at all? Thant’s wild. Any time I’ve ever travelled or roomed with a smoker, they were respectful of others, and smoked on the balcony, in the garage if the place had one, or elsewhere.
It is extremely disrespectful of them to smoke indoors, let alone get mad when you open the windows.
NTA, she needs to quit smoking and quit being inconsiderate.
NTA, start taking bong rips in the room.
N/TA. I know you smoke weed, but you still do not need to be exposed to her second hand smoke especially since you’re not exposing her to yours. The next time she pulls out a cigarette, grab a joint and tell her…you light up, I light up…
NTA – Why anyone would want to foul their entire living space with smoke? I can smell your place from here. Your aunt isn’t just gross she’s an idiot.
NTA, unacceptable behaviour. When my horsemanship smoked, he went outside, never mind the living room.
NTA
Light up some Reggie with the door closed and see if she opens it…
Then slam it shut like she does.
How does that COPD look to you? Does it look like your future? You need more than an open window.
It does! And it scares me. They think I’m “ just too sensitive” but tbh I’m already disabled and I really don’t want to add more health problems to the list. ( I know smoking weed probably doesn’t help either)
This is why I might be an asshole, we live in my grandma’s house and my grandma charges her rent but not me. I’m fresh out of college and looking for a stable job and lived with my aunt for most of my life ( but we always had separate rooms) and part of the agreement of moving into grandma’s house was this set rent set up and that we would share the biggest room in the house since we’ve already lived together. Actually she’s been meaning to talk to my grandma ( her sister) about lowering rent further.
NTA
Your aunt should smoke in the other room or outside, but on the other hand, you can’t really get too angry because she’s the one who’s paying the rent not You!
It’s really inconsiderate to smoke anything in a shared bedroom. You need to ask her to agree that the bedroom is now to be smoke-free. She can smoke elsewhere. NTA