Sorry for the vague title but idk how else to put it. For context, I (20m) don’t have a care nor the funds to uber. I’m saving my money to get an apartment. Currently I live with my mother and step father. My mom is the one who drives me to work. She doesn’t have a job and lives off her husband’s money.
Recently, she had complained that she was tired of having to take time out of her day to drive me places. She also said she hated being bothered in the morning. Today, to take something off her plate, I walked to work. I thought I was fixing the problem as now she doesn’t have to take time out of her morning.
She called me and told me that I was rude and arrogant. I genuinely don’t understand as I fixed the main problem.
Am I the asshole?
NTA. Her response is silly. She didn’t want to drive you so you made it so she didn’t have to.
Info: Did you tell her you were walking to work so that she didn’t get up and get ready to take you as she usually does?
INFO: Did you give notice last night or this just something you decided this morning?
INFO – did you let her know you were going to do this, or was it a surprise?
INFO: how many times a week do you get a ride? Is it only to work? Do you pay rent or bills? Gas money? Did you let her know you’d be walking or let her get up and get ready to take you? Are you aware that you’re living off your stepdad, too?
INFO: Did you tell her ahead of time that you’d walk to work? If so, how far in advance?
If I was expecting to drive someone somewhere and then pick them up later, I would have scheduled my day around it, maybe been getting ready to go, and then realizing they aren’t there. It’d be annoying, especially if I didn’t know if they would need to be picked up later or not. Arranging plans around someone else’s schedule, and then rearranging it, and potentially re-rearranging again would be frustrating.
Even if you didn’t tell her before hand, I don’t think that’s AH behavior. Just unintentionally annoying.