Last night, I cooked dinner at my boyfriend’s apartment. He currently has a college friend staying over, and the friend also invited his girlfriend and another friend to hang out. I cooked for everyone chatted a bit then everyone left for the night. it’s a railroad style apartment there’s a living room and two bedrooms that all connect to each other, his parents bedroom the one which is friend is staying in you can access through the hallway and not have to go through the other rooms. My boyfriend and I start cooking brownies and I asked him where his friend and his girlfriend went since he told me they would be out for the night he then tells me there in the other room around 1am the girlfriend comes through the front door, she leaves and walks back to his parents room through the hallway. I ask if she’s sleeping over a detail he seemed to conveniently leave out the first time. he then goes on to say she’s slept over almost every night while i’ve also been there and didn’t think it was important to tell me.
I called him the next day and told him I thought it was weird, but he didn’t see the issue and didn’t feel like any boundaries were crossed.
AITA for feeling like that’s uncomfortable and all parties involved are weird?
two things important to know.
the girlfriend was not visiting from out of town. has he own home that is pretty close to my boyfriends apartment in which they could do things instead of on his parents bed… I personally think both her and the boyfriend are odd and got overly comfortable in someone’s else’s home.
and I’ve previously had issues with the girlfriend for being flirty, texting my boyfriend at odds times, i’ve had people come up to me unprompted and tell me her behavior towards my boyfriend is weird, and once while on a group outing she made a odd joke referring to herself as my boyfriends slut. This was all before her and her current boyfriend started dating but I still don’t particularly like her and my boyfriend knows this.
>” I still don’t particularly like her…”
This is the crux of it all, and YTA for making it about anything else. If GF was just some random female, I don’t think it would matter at all.
MYOB or have a discussion with your BF if you think inappropriate behavior is occurring.
INFO: To be clear, the girlfriend was staying there with her boyfriend, not alone?
NTA – situation sounds very weird. Don’t blame you for feeling odd about it all
> got overly comfortable in someone’s else’s home.
Yea, not your home.
Are you jealous of a young lady sleeping with your boyfriends friend? Eww he don’t want her.
YTA.
YTA, it’s not your house. Does he luve with his parents or on their property. Your post is too confusing. They’re out, they’re in the other room. Gf comes in through front door. Which is it? Genuinely confused.
Woahhhh this is a lot to unpack but in my opinion NTA. At first I thought it was a bit strange you were upset with the girl just staying over once especially if she’s with her boyfriend but the whole “slut” thing is extremely weird so is them over staying their welcome when they have their own home. The fact people have said stuff about her behavior to you is extremely weird as well and is enough right there to tell you something is wrong with the situation with her and you aren’t the only one noticing. I’d definitely set a boundary with my boyfriend if I were you and if he can’t follow it that would tell me all I need to know
So your BF had HIS friends sleep over at HIS house, and the friends are a COUPLE?
YTA – Unless I’m missing something, you are being insecure because you don’t like her and feel threatened by another woman.
YTA but also I understand nothing.
This, what is happening, how many people are there, where do they all live?
YTA. He lets his friend and the gf stay over, so what?. The girlfriend hasn’t stayed there alone with your bf, her bf is also there. They don’t all share a bed lol, I don’t get the problem. It seems the only ‘weird’ thing is they don’t really need to stay there as they live nearby, but so what. Maybe they just like being around him
I would say YTA, it’s not really any of your business is it? I think the real problem here is that you have trust issues towards your BF, otherwise you wouldn’t care. Talk to him about that instead of this.
This is so confusing. I’m not sure wha the actual issue is, nor do I know how many people were staying in this house and why it’s an issue that this one girl was there.
This is super confusing for me.
Where are your boyfriend’s parents?
Why doesn’t the friend stay with the girlfriend?
Why would the girlfriend be interested in your bf if she’s dating his friend already?
I’m assuming you don’t live with him based on context
Like I get it if the gf was staying there without the college friend then go off but this is just screaming insecurity. They’re on the opposite side of the apartment and clearly too busy with each other to be thinking about your bf. YTA. You’re insecure and controlling, he can let his friend and his friends gf spend the night if he wants, it’s his apartment not yours.