Istill shaking while typing this. My wife (Paula ) and I just got back from a trip. It was our first time away since our twin daughter was born. We gave my mother in law Hakiko a spare key just to check on things if necessary
Paula is sentimental. When her grandmother passed away, she left her two handcarved mahogany pieces a desk and a vanity. They were Paula absolute favorite things
walked in yesterday and the room was empty. Hakiko was there, all smiles, saying she made a surprise for us by getting rid of that oldie dusty junk to give us a modern look lol She replaced them with some cheap, flatpack furniture. She literally give away/donated Paula inheritance without asking
Told her to leave and give me the keys. I changed the locks today. Paula has been in tears. Now the rest of the family are calling me abusive guy and controlling by for isolating paulas from her mother Hakiko over some old piece of junkie wood. They say Hakiko’s heart was in the right place and I’m being an AH for banning a grandmother from seeing her grandkid over furniture!
My wife is on my side. She agrees with the ban, but the constant guilt from her family is making me feel like a monster. AITA?
NTA. Find out where she donated it RIGHT NOW. You might be able to go get it back. Threaten to file a police report for theft.
I suspect she didn’t even “donate” them, she sold them to pocket cash. She has to have known their worth.
Also, she didn’t carry out heavy pieces herself. Who helped her? a company or a donation center? get all the info you can out of her to track these down. If she “can’t remember” – she has call log on her phone
And Iif she “can’t remember” – that’s a sure way to tell she isn’t being honest.
#You call the police and report the theft.
You will be able to get the furniture back that way.
She will have to admit to the police who she donated/sold the furniture too. And you’re furniture will be recovered as stolen property.
Underrated comment.
You are not the asshole. You were robbed of precious heirlooms. Robbery requires police.
There’s a big chance the furniture has good value, and she actually sold it. In my country mahogany furniture in good condition is a solid investment, don’t know about theirs
I would be willing to bet money Hakiko has the furniture. NTA and agree Paula should make a police report.
Wouldn’t shock me if she was pissed that her daughter got the pieces and not her and just took them and replaced them with shit.
Because I can’t think of any other reason anyone would do that, get basically Ikea furniture, and then smile like they did something amazing. Not to mention *how* she sold them. Mahogany is heavy, so either she got someone to move them to her place or let strangers in a house that wasn’t hers to pick them up.
All sorts of crazy bullshit going on here.
NTA
Tell her that you’re going to call the police for theft if she doesn’t tell you where she took the furniture. You may still have to call the police so you can get it back.
I’d tell *her* she had 48 hours to get the furniture back before I filed a police report.
…and file the police report immediately.
The 48 hours is how long it will take for the police to even start moving, best get that moving now, you can drop it later if you want.
YWBTA if you don’t file a police report. She stole from you. She probably sold them.
NTA. “When Hakkiko returns every piece of furniture she stole from our home, she can come back. Until then, she isn’t welcome, but I’ll let her know she’s free to come over and ransack your home since you seem to believe that’s generous.”
After reading all those comments…we’re going to the police department because yes it’s theft. All the comments are running in the same direction…theft.
It’s my house, my property, my place of peace. Should not be in this situation! I’m so happy my wife also agrees with me