I moved back to the state where all my family lives. I moved back for a job and to have more support with my 11 week old baby. My dad and I have a difficult relationship. When my parents got divorced, I lived with him full time from 13-17. We talk on the phone like once a week, but I haven’t seen him in person in 5 years. He’s not a bad person, but he’s been a bad dad to me. According to my last therapist he was so neglectful he was abusive when I was a kid. He really hasn’t shown up for me ever. When I was moving 1000 miles with an infant he was absolutely no help. It’s not a money thing or a time thing. I think you can love someone from a distance. For the first time I’m so happy and content. I love my new job, I have unproblematic supportive family to help me with my son. My dad has asked to meet him and I’ve said no. For context my dad now lives about a 3 hour drive from me. Am I the asshole for not allowing my dad to meet my son?