Sorry for any typos, I hate mobile keyboards.
Every week for a long while now, my immediate family visits my dad’s sister and my paternal grandfather to eat. The latter is able to drive to the former’s house. (Me: 25M, parents: 52M, 55F; sibling(s): 23F, aunt: mid-50s, grandfather: 83).
I’m unsure of the meaning behind it all, and furthermore, I am sensitive to loud noises and get angry when confined with a source of loud noise. Unfortunately, not only do I have to ride with my sister, who can be a source of noise, but the aunt and my mother can be quite loud, and the former’s house is not large.
Both of my parents cite reasons like, "its only 3 hours a week," (because we do this once a week for three hours) and the generic "family is important" thing (which, as stated earlier, I do not understand). As for why I couldn’t drive myself, my dad says its better if I ride with them for logistical reasons.
Am I over-reaching for wanting not to go unless I drive myself?
NTA I don’t really understand what the problem is, you should be able to just go by yourself
NTA it sounds like you have some sensory issues. You’re not saying you won’t go, you just want to go yourself.
NTA. I understood that at least one of the others can drive. So they’re not dependent on you to drive them. I don’t get why you can’t just drive yourself. If they’re able to get their without you, then they can just loudly drive themselves. It’s not like you’re skipping the family dinner.
Nta
NTA. Is it your own vehicle? If it’s not, then you need to suck it up, but if you have your own car then you better get a backbone and just refuse to get in the car. How hard is that? Learn how to say no.
NTA. Drive yourself. You can spend time as a family once you get there LOL
Youre 25. Why do your parents still have so much control over your life?
Nta, just try saying that you’ve got something on before or after and need your car.
Eg – need to drop by a friends house on the way home to pick up a keyboard and chat about an assignment.