Hi all, 24M my girlfriend and I have had a pretty dead relationship for the past year or two (been together 4 years). We haven’t called it quits. But we also aren’t really there for each other in the ways we need anymore. Its… like a stalemate. Like sleeping in the same bed as a roommate. No romance. We have maybe “slept” together twice in the past year. She’s always picking fights and arguments over the smallest things like where I set her purse down on the table for example. Tonight she pushed me away again. I asked why and she said we never do anything romantic together as if thats the reason for the distance between us. A year ago We went to cuba for a week as a vacation to “mutually restart” and hopefully come back into our lives refreshed and in love again. That did not happen. When i brought up that a week away in cuba didnt seem like enough she then said because I didn’t pay for all of it. It kinda stung my cheek when I had initially heard it.
So i guess the question is AITA for assuming a week together in the caribbean would be romantic regardless if it was a gift or a mutual trip? (We had a blast btw just a lack of romance) but then again i seem to be the only one trying to be romantic in anyway these days. Please help me see light. Am I wasting my time?
ESH – Get away from each other
NTA, but bro you’re only 24 and not even married to this girl. She does not like you and does not appreciate you. Dump her, be sad for a few months, and move on with your life.
ESH you’re both not trying hard enough it seems going based only on what you say. It might be time to either try harder or break up.
“the trip wasn’t romantic because i had to pay my fair share”? NTA
Uhhh yall r just terrible at communicating and no one’s the asshole. Just breakup yall r both young start over eh
This is not a match. Do you want this for the rest of your life? This has been over for a long time. Leave her! You’re so young -you deserve someone who is your best friend & madly in love with you! Coming from someone married for decades.
This relationship sounds horrible and how the trip is interpreted is the least of your problems. Move on.
ESH
Run. This is a not a relationship either of you should be in. Sounds kind of toxic.
Why not calling it quits after two years of no romance in a four-years long relationship?
Nta but yes wasting your time. Break up
Your caption is completely off for all of the baggage you’ve unloaded here
You two are not compatible. Break up. Now.
NTA Sounds like this relationship has run its course but you’re both too stubborn to verbally say it. How long do yall plan to keep this unspoken fact unspoken? Break up already
The relationship has been “dead” for 1/2 its duration? YTA to yourself for staying in that. You have one life spend it with someone who works with you and appreciates you
Sweetie, your relationship is done. It’s time to move on. You’re putting in all the effort and she’s doing nothing. You took her on a trip last year to fall in love again and it wasn’t reciprocated, and then she had the audacity to complain about having to pay for part of it. Read the writing on the wall. It’s time to leave. Good luck.