Hey Reddit
For some context, my brother M20 has insomnia and has been diagnosed with OCD and anxiety. We share a room. In the morning, I have to get ready for college, and recently, my brother has been annoyed by my shuffling around in the morning. He admits he hasn’t been sleeping great and asked if I could change and get ready in the bathroom, as I make a lot of noise and it wakes him up. He also has health issues, and the lack of sleep is making it worse. I don’t think this is fair as it’s my room too. I don’t even think I’m being that loud. I try to be quieter, but he ends up waking up, and he just kisses his teeth at me. He acts very hostile. This morning, it bubbled over, and he got really angry at me. I’m not sure if I’m being the unreasonable one here.
INFO – What kinds of noise do you make?
YATA.
“It’s my room”- Stop. It’s his room too. You have to be respectful of the fact that he has trouble sleeping and needs a quiet environment.
You are completely capable of getting what you need to get ready, and bringing it into the bathroom to get ready there. He’s getting snippy with you because you’re being incredibly disrespectful of his boundaries.
He asked you politely to try and be quieter, and asked politely if you can get ready in the bathroom. It makes no difference to you, just to get ready in a different space. You’re probably not going to want to get dressed in front of your sibling anyways?
It is BOTH of your guys’ room. That means, if he asks you to be respectful of the time he needs in HIS AND YOUR room to sleep, you need to be respectful and allow him the time to do so.
Lets not forget that you admitted to YOUR shuffling, causing him to NOT sleep, is worsening his health.
That is some diabolical, monster-ass bullshit.
You’re an ASSHOLE.
yta, its really not hard to just take your clothes into the bathroom to get dressed/ready. Even if he didnt have health issues its such an easy fix to just change in a different room, you refusing to do it is petty.
What is kissing his teeth?
YTA
YATA
Why are you being so selfish? Why don’t you care how your brother with health issues is being affected by this?
It is completely reasonable for him to ask you to gather what you need and get out of the room. You’re going to want to learn this kind of respect for the future. For example, if you’re married and you start work at 6 and your partner doesn’t work until 9. They’ll probably want you to leave without waking them as well.
YTA. Take your elephant feet and nose blowing into the bathroom.
YTA big time. Why can’t you do a minor thing to accommodate a family member who has such difficulty surrounding sleep?
YTA
How hard is it to go change in the bathroom or be quiet when you get up in the morning when someone else is sleeping???
This is an incredibly normal adult situation, and the answer is – the person who gets up first is quiet when they are getting up in the morning and the person who goes to bed last is quiet when they come in to go to bed.
YTA – he’s your brother. Do you hate him or something? He’s told you he finds it difficult so why not do it?
YTA.
The room belongs to both of you, and your mom has already said you’re being loud. Being inconvenienced by getting ready in the washroom isn’t comparable to him losing sleep, which worsens his already existing health issues.
If this continues, he’s likely to snap—which you’re already seeing—and that will probably lead to a fight and your parents stepping in. When they do, they’ll likely make you use the washroom anyway, since he can’t change his insomnia but you can change where you get ready.
So what’s the benefit of pushing this? Put your things in the washroom or living room (your bag/laptop/books) the night before and get ready in the washroom. Treat your brother like you actually care about his wellbeing.
YTA – his request to get ready in the bathroom is completely normal under any circumstance. Taking his mental and physical health into consideration as well makes you an even bigger jerk. Why not take 1 small step to help your brother and show him a little empathy.
YTA. Your parents even say you’re loud af too. Whether you mean to or not it doesn’t matter; you’re loud AF. Stop being an unempathetic asshole and go change in the fucking bathroom. I’d act hostile too if I was consistently being woken up when I don’t sleep well to begin with.