Obviously, as this is my first post, I’m not very good at this. My Mother is a covert narcissist, she has made my entire life about her. First wedding she hated my now ex and refused to speak to me for 3 years, never attended the wedding, and only started talking to me again, after I left him. I met the love of my life, and he doesn’t really like her, because of the way she treats me. So, a friend gave me a dress a few years ago, knowing that once I was done, caring for my parents, he and I would tie the knot. Katt and I, have been together for 20 years now. I was looking online to find a dress, that looked similar to the one that got stolen.
The first time I talked to my Mother about my dress, we got into a conversation about all the stuff stolen from the house. She ended up crying and told me she was not interested in seeing my dress. My fiance is basically the only person in my life I trust, so I talked to him about it. Ended up in tears myself, because she is incapable of being happy about anything. Even if I do everything the exact way she tells me, she still finds a way to complain about it. She’s never been there when I’ve needed her, even when I tell her what I need, she will find a way to ruin it. Last time I was in the hospital, on 3 different anti biotics for a cat bite, she called me on the phone, and wanted me to order something or other for her.
Anyway my dress arrived today and I decided to give my Mother one more chance, to see it. To at least pretend to care about anyone else but herself. She told me she was most likely never going to want to see it, and acted miffed that I had even brought it up again. So, I left and went back upstairs, and she called me but I was busy ordering stuff for the house and didn’t pick up. When I did get back to her by her tone of voice, I knew she wasn’t really interested, but didn’t want me angry or upset with her, and she sighed and said, "I’ll look at your dress."
WIBTA for not wanting something so special, to get ruined by her attitude? I don’t want her to dampen my happiness anymore than she’s already done so. I’m tired of being excited and happy with things, and having her harass me about it, until I am exhausted and in tears.
WTF
I don’t get it. A few years ago? Is the wedding still upcoming or this is a replacement dress to just sit in a closet and never actually get used?
This was my question
Workers stole two wedding dresses while on a job
Wut.
This makes absolutely no sense.
Apparently both mother and daughter’s wedding dresses that they were keeping after their weddings were stolen by workers. Daughter found a dress that looked similar to hers and bought it and was excited to show Mother. Mother was upset that she didn’t have one that looked like her lost dress so she refused to see the daughter’s replacement. Daughter got hurt, Mother changed her mind and now wants to see Daugjtee’s dress, but Daughter is still hurt so she refuses to let Mothet see it even though she wants to. Yes, losing a treasured keepsake is traumatic, but this post is bizarre.
So OP, let your mother see your dress and then together search everywhere for one that matches hers. It can be a bonding experience that you both seem to need.
The hell? Replacement dress for what wedding? Are you married already? Or did you buy a dress you like in hopes that one day you would wear it and then found another?
Well, at least something this disjointed and make absolutely no sense probably is A.I.
This makes no sense
..I really don’t understand your context story.
Despite that, it’s YOUR dress. YOUR wedding. YOUR day. YOUR marriage.
She doesn’t even have to GO if you don’t want her to.
You would NBTA.
So you are punishing her for having some feelings and not being ready when you wanted her to be. YWBTA.
What have I just read…?
INFO: Why are you replacing your stolen wedding dress?
Huh? Ate they marrying each other?