I am a 15yr old, me and my sister, who just turned 18 share a room since i was basically a child. As we moved to a different place, we’re still looking for a good house to buy and have been sharing a room for four years at our new place. Over the past few years I didn’t mind sharing it with her but lately we’ve been fighting way more than often. Me and my sister are pretty mature for our age considering our situations and try to be mature about it and talk about how feel. Our parents are a little immature and don’t believe in stuff like therapy or us having stress cause they genuinely believe that we can’t have stress If we’re not going through what they’re going through. “How could a 15yr old have depression?”. Me and my sister have a bunk bed, I sleep on the top, she’s on the bottom. Normally we respect each others boundaries(in a sibling way ig) and try to be quiet when it’s too late/when one of us are sleeping. Since yesterday my sister would call with her friends late at night, I’m talking 1-3 am in the morning, which would technically be okay, since I also sleep late and it’s the holidays but school is starting soon and I always tell her when I’m going to bed. It’s about 1am and Im asleep but wake up several time to her laughing loudly or talking loudly on her phone. I try to calmly tell her be quieter and cut the call soon but she didnt. Next morning I wake up very tired and frustrated cause I genuinely didn’t sleep. Today again she starts calling at 1 am with her friends and I get kinda mad cause I really want to sleep and tell her to stop calling soon in a kind of mad tone and tell her I’m going to bed soon. Later she’s laughing loudly again and talking on the phone and I get pissed and decide to sleep on the couch cause I’m not having it. She sees me take my pillow and says “you’re sleeping on the couch! Thank you!“ Smiling and maybe mocking? I walk away and as I take the other stuff she repeats what she says and I got mad and said fuck you kinda loud purposefully so my parents wake up. (I usually don’t do this cause I know how crazy my parents are) but she has done this randomly otherwise too and it’s kinda annoying. So my mom wakes up and says what’s going on? I tell her my sister’s loud and I’m sleeping on the couch so she goes to my sister and asks her what’s going on and gets really really mad. 5 min later my dad wakes up and screams at her too. Now I feel really bad. Am I the asshole?
YTA – “I got mad that my sleep was being disrupted, so I woke someone up”
It was an ongoing issue, you should talk to your parents about it when they’re awake. Yelling to wake them up makes you no better than your sister.
Your parents are AH’s
How did your parents hear you say two words but not anytime your sister was on the phone/laughing loudly at 1/2/3am? Anyway, your sister is TA, but this is just sibling behaviour ngl. She messed around with you, you did the same back. Problem solved? Maybe.
Question, roles reversed how would she treat you?
I have no idea cause whenever I call at night (which I almost never do) I always feel stressed about waking my sister up cause I know she doesnt sleep a lot cause she studies late at night. But I honestly have no idea
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NTA if it happens again loudly say, “(Sister’s name), omg stop farting! It’s so loud and it smells bad and I’m trying to sleep!” Loud enough for the friend on the other line to hear.
I kid. But for real, she should go somewhere else to talk.
lol omg yes that’s such a good ideaaa
NTA, I shared a room with a sibling for years and we fought, a lot, you tried talking to her and it didn’t work, you got in an argument and you made it loud enough for someone else to finally care, underhanded, not really, you were just as loud as she was and it just happened to be the thing that woke your mom up.
I still live at home because it’s a HCOL area, with my own room now thankfully, I also know my parents won’t back me up, the issues I’ve been having with other siblings, I can hear one of them constantly having sex because of a shared wall that’s just framing and drywall. It’s awkward and it would be too low of a blow to tell my parents about, so I tried talking to the sibling, no change, I finally got fed up and played the weirdest and most mood killing songs my brain and an internet search could think of. It either killed the mood and stopped them or it stopped them long enough for my sibling and their SO to turn the tv up.
My advice as a petty sibling, give her some time to cool down and see if there’s a change to her behavior, but if she keeps doing it and your parents don’t shut her down, make a really loud fart noise and ask if she needs her gas pills because that one woke you up, loudly enough her friend on the other end of the phone can hear, sometimes embarrassment is needed to change behaviors because talking to to getting yelled at by a parent or sibling doesn’t always work.
Since your sister probably isn’t going to stop talking on the phone/waking you up late at night maybe try Mack’s silicone ear plugs or noise cancelling headphones?
That’s such a good idea thank you