Say you spent 3 days with a woman and caught feelings for her but you know it could never work out cause you’re 17 yrs younger and she’s in a different phase in life. Plus you live on opposite sides of the country. The feelings are mutual and she likes you just as much as you like her. The feeling is very rare for you but she makes you feel comfortable, seen, understood, and natural. It wasnt explicitly stated as a hookup but when is it ever? Given the circumstances a hookup is what’s most reasonable. What would you do?
What’s the aGES?!
27 yr old man 44 yr old woman
That’s not horrible! It would be different if you were 18 and she was 35. You are both adults. Is she single? If you really like each other that much try to make it work. But be prepared that it could have just been a fling.
Relationships don’t have to last forever.
Make it work forget all that it couldn’t it can if you make it work
This is the way
Move on, or try to make it work. Either is fine. But do you actually “know it could never work”, or are you assuming it?
Also, if you are a woman with a woman, why are you asking men?
I don’t believe there is any such thing as “could never work”. If you want it to work it certainly can. Opposite sides of the country is obviously an issue, but one of you could always move.
Woman, it was just a sex weekend. Don’t force it. The age gap makes no sense for anything more, and how do you even know he caught feelings? That’s highly unlikely for a man in such a short period of time.
The whole “different phases in life” is such bullshit.
Life is not about different phases because life is not structured into phases. You can simply do whatever seems best to you and make your own rules, not follow those that others try to impose on you for their own reasons.
Of more concern is the fact that you live on opposite sides of the country. You can’t have much of a relationship if you can’t see one another easily and often.
So scientist just invented this new technique called “talking”. It’s where you tell the other person or person your problem, then they tell you how they feel about it, and it keeps going back and forth until a solution or way forward is mutually reached.
Make plans to see each other if it’s mutually appreciated. Though
Some romances are merely ‘adventures’…like “ships in the night” is what they used to say. Enjoy the warm feeling. If just you maintain friendship, you guys can possibly cross paths again. But each of you might move on.
I’ve had many short romances. You’ll definitely “get over” the sadness from separation but the memories will last.
Edit: but the age difference might become an issue moving forward so consider that.