Hello,
So I see many posts about sexual encounters and have gotten curious about what was everyone’s sex education like growing up if any?
Whats something you guys wish were told and by who? Mainly because some prefer an educator while other prefer their parents/gurdians or a doctor.
How would/do you tell your kids? For those who apply.
I curious what the middle ground is on this since many people I know personally have mixed thoughts ranging from not learning and not wanting their kids to know to learning in school and at home and continuing that for their kids.
I found a text book my dad had for a college course. It was the only time in my life I was riveted to a school book. I was maybe 12.
My sex ed mostly came from school and the nsfw parts of the internet 😅
It was somewhere in a fairy tale
I used to take her home in my car
We learned about love in the back of a Dodge
The lesson hadn’t gone too far.
Born early 90’s. Pretty much nonexistent.
Don’t.
Source: grew up in Texas
Worked as an outreach worker for an HIV/AIDS prevention program at 13
Went through training about sex education for the job
It was a summer job at first but after i did training i started working full time
I knew too much as a teenager but also taught my peers because they knew what i did and would ask
Led me to some crazy places
School honestly handled it pretty well.
My father’s version was:
“Hey, you know what sex is by now, right?”
“Yes.”
“Okay, and you know if you don’t wrap it up, I’ll kill you right?”
“Yes.”
“Alright. Good talk.”
Junior high school. “Health class” , essentially anatomy class.
I don’t remember much but I distinctly recall a banana and a condom….
The gutter. Friends dad’s stolen Playboy.
My parents went with a somewhat non-traditional but very appropriate method. They bought me a book on puberty. It was called something like the “What’s Happening to My Body Book for Boys”. It basically covered the entirety of the human reproductive system and the changes during puberty, how sex works, basics on contraception and STD prevention, etc. It also explained the female end of things, but from a more abbreviated stance.
I read the book and they asked if I had any follow up questions, I told them I was good to go.
I had a “maturation program” in elementary school, which covered the basics of going through puberty, both physical and emotional.
Then I had a health class in junior high and another one in high school, and these classes covered pretty much all of the physical questions, including birth control methods. At that time, there was no perceived social need to cover gay sex or gender identities, so we didn’t learn about those.
Was shown pictures of syphilis and genital wart infected penises and vulvas in school, was told that a screaming baby at 2am was not the life I wanted in high school by my parents and found a Hustler mag at a construction site of some blonde in a boat captains hat pissing in a goldfish bowl before the internet became a thing. Then the internet showed me that every woman loved anal and was down 24/7. Seems like the school and my parents were the only ones with accurate intel about the realities of sex haha.
As a Dad to 4 teenagers now it’s definitely a weird conversation to have because you want to affirm that sex can be a great thing that also carries very real repercussions, but I feel like we really miss on educating our kids how to have respectful, slow paced, patient and protected sex with a partner who gives clear consent and where both participants strive to make the experience good for the other person. Definitely caught between trying to educate them on something you know everyone fumbles through and not be too encouraging to go experiment.
HBO, Cinemax, and one really awful sex ed class in high school