I always focus on her pleasure and lasting as long as I can for her. Is this common? I do feel better after having sex, if I cum, like my internal timer is back to 0. I think more clearly. I often don’t cum though. She usually gets a few orgasms though. Maybe I should go to therapy
Therapy yes. Are you already on any meds?
You posted, you asked and you answer your own question!
This. Sometimes you have to put yourself first. She can cum second.
INFO:
Does self-pleasure “work”?
Could you be gay?
There’s nothing inherently “wrong”.
This is controversial but i personally , I think we’re reaching a stage where a lot of forms of masturbating simple feels better than sex.
A good heated fleshlight, varying texture, tightness, heated lube, good porn, relaxed position, minimal effort/work, just feels a lot better than normal sex. And I think it’s only going to get better with technology.
But sex with someone you actually love, is different. It’s more of an intimate connection building activity than “just” sex.
>But sex with someone you actually love, is different. It’s more of an intimate connection building activity than “just” sex.
This right here.
Sex with random strangers…. Meh. Jerking is often better, you are right.
Don’t be so in your head. I was so insecure for so long, i always put her first and was way too in my head. I didn’t want to cum quick so i didn’t cum at all. If you have that wiring you will make her go crazy but your path lies in putting yourself first for once. It helped me to be more dominant by telling my lady to suck my dick after i ate her out. She got hers now ima get mine and we can both get ours together after. She loved the dominance and we both loved the sex. Hope this helps best of luck
You don’t enjoy the oxytocin, dopamine, and endorphins from human contact? Are you on ssri or some other prescription meds? It sounds like a biological issue, not a therapy issue.
Asexuality is a thing.
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If you’re fighting the whole way and only focusing on what makes her feel good, you’re not devoting much to what you enjoy yourself.
>I always focus on her pleasure and lasting as long as I can for her
I think this is your problem. Of course it’s important for your partner to enjoy sex too, but you’re not going to have a good time yourself if all you’re thinking about is performing for them. There needs to be some give and take there, as well as some amount of selfishness at times.
Practically, you need to explore what exactly you *do* enjoy and try to incorporate more of that into your sex life. Find a partner that also enjoys the kind of sex you like, rather than trying to mold yourself to please someone else. If there’s nothing about it you enjoy and desire, you might just be asexual.
Are you gay?
Have you tried men?