I 30F am very interested in being in a relationship. I feel so lonely and isolated especially because I am doing my residency in a state far from my family. Every one of my coresidents is in a relationship.
I am very timid, shy, not usually the one starting conversations or even continuing them. I have such bad social anxiety. I think I need to take a more proactive role in approaching guys because no one ever approaches me. I am very average looking (would also be willing to take constructive feedback on improving my look). Not overweight. Not thin. What is the best way to start doing this?
You just go up to a guy and start talking to him.
Men crave this more than you know as we have too much to risk by approaching women.
Reality is men in most cases don’t approach women at all any longer.
Just be prepared that men may be a little unsure at first as we might think it’s odd or some trick. Just keep at it though
Very few, in fact almost zero guys are offended when a woman chats them up. If she’s too shy to talk to him, look at him till he notices and look bashful. Repeat. Be nearby, hang around. If she is obvious enough many guys will eventually talk to her first, if they are single.
Go to a bar and try to talk to people. Not because you’re trying to pick up a guy, but because you’re trying to learn how to make conversation in social settings without being awkward. Making conversation at bars is super low stakes as a woman so it’s perfect for practicing.
Do not go to bars.
Good grief.
Well what’s your suggestion?
What I’ve seen work best is to sit near a guy at a bar and then begin a conversation with the bartender about something of general interest (not politics or religion though). This gives the guy the ability to join the conversation if he desires.
Oh, good thought!
I would probably assume they are then interested in the bartender
ya bartenders can be great esp when things aren’t too busy
Drop hanker chief, jk but also not that’s how they used to do it … On the conversation and social anxiety thing it’s just practice I think… I’m no good myself but the chads just have lots of practice and can test new strategies and see if it works on different girls… So see what works, see what doesn’t. As a woman this is gonna be super hard, best thing to try and get someone else to approach is making eye contact and then smiling like you are attracted to them. If they smile back but don’t make the move you could always say hi first but I already know for women this is like a knife to the dick
We like it when your direct
Guys pick up on it quick and we’re guys.. it’s easy🤣🤣 for real though…. a cool personality and someone genuinely attracted to us goes a long way… just be you and if a guy is interested we’ll let you know quickly…. good luck👊👊👊
How are you going to date when you said you basically can’t hold a conversation, as a man I’m genuinely curious.