I’m 21M and I recently moved into a small one-bedroom apartment. I worked and saved for it while studying and just moved in not long ago. It’s not big or fancy, but it’s my first place on my own.
My sister (27F) broke up with her boyfriend and moved back in with our parents. She’s been having a rough time since then, which I understand. Breakups suck.
A few days ago we were talking and she asked if she could move into my apartment “for a bit” until she figures things out. I honestly didn’t expect that and I said no. I told her I just moved in, I’m not used to living with someone, and the place is really meant for one person.
She didn’t take it well and said I was being selfish, especially since I’m younger and could “adapt more easily.” She also said I could just stay with friends sometimes or go back to our parents, and that she needs privacy right now more than I do.
Later my parents talked to me and said they get where I’m coming from, but they think I should help her temporarily to keep things calm in the family. They suggested I let her stay for free or for very little rent since she’s my sister.
I still don’t feel comfortable with it. I worked hard specifically so I could finally have my own space, and I don’t really want to give that up right after moving in.
Now things feel awkward and I’m being made to feel like I’m choosing an apartment over my sister when she’s already having a hard time.
AITA for saying no?
NTA. If you’re renting, check your lease or with your landlord. There’s usually a clause on how long you can have a guest that isn’t on the lease. If there is a clause, this will likely get you out of this without looking like the bad guy.
Lol NTA. They are getting tired of each other and they both want to be living alone, so the obvious solution for each of them is for *you* to go live with someone else.
This is their life and they need to figure it out. Your parents had a kid, they are responsible for helping her restart. Your sister is an adult, she is responsible for her own life.
NTA. Wanting to kick you out of the apartment you worked for so that she can have it “until” is crazy.
Temporary is never temporary. Hold your ground, she has a roof over her head. NTA
NTA. It’s not an emergency she doesn’t need to come stay with you.
NTA. There’s only one bedroom; where would she even stay? The couch? And without a definitive timeline for how long she’d be there, *absolutely* not. Then her suggestion that you stay with your parents so she can have “privacy” in the apartment you’re paying for is audacious and absurd.
Shes literally trying to take over your apartment and kick you out to somewhere else. How does she think she’s gonna get privacy in a one bedroom with someone else? She doesn’t. Home girl is straight up trying to squatter steal your place
No is a complete sentence. You don’t need to justify your reasoning. Your sister screwing up her relationship doesn’t mean you lose your house. She’s not homeless. Do not budge on this no matter how much they try to pressure you. Mute them for a little while if needed. NTA.
“She also said I could just stay with friends sometimes or go back to our parents, and that she needs privacy right now more than I do.”
What your sister REALLY wants is you to let her have your apartment for full, and that sentence shows it
So NTA and don’t back down
She’s the one that should go to her friends then.
NTA.
NTA…She’s suggesting that YOU go stay somewhere else while she uses your apartment??? Absolutely not. She can put her own life back together.
NTA.
She’s not homeless/on the edge of homeless and you’re denying shelter. She just doesn’t want to be living with your parents. She can save and get her own place, or not. That’s up to her.
NTA. She moved back in with your parents. She doesn’t need somewhere else to stay. She can save her money while she lives with them and get a place of her own soon enough.
“She also said I could just stay with friends sometimes or go back to our parents”. Can’t she do that? It’s YOUR place. That YOU pay for. While I can see wanting to help her out, she’s not entitled to it, and if you don’t want to, that’s the end of the discussion.