I (24F) and my brother (22M) each had friends over to my parent’s house for New Years. Around 4am, my friends and I were about to sleep when one of his friends (let’s call him Parker) came upstairs, rocking back and forth and slurring his words. Parker asked my friend to move her car so he could leave, and I told him I didn’t think he should leave as he seemed visibly drunk. My friends agreed. Parker went to leave anyway, but luckily he was blocked in.
I decided to wake my parents, since I didn’t feel right letting him leave and none of my friends were sober enough to move a car anyway. That’s when my brother came upstairs, yelling at me that I needed to mind my own business and that Parker is always like that and I shouldn’t have made this a big deal, insisting that he was not drunk. My parents agreed with me that Parker should not drive. My brother got in my friend’s face and yelled at her that she was being ridiculous for refusing to move her car.
I didn’t hear from my brother for 10 days after that. I expected an apology, but I never got one. A few days ago, I called him with the intention to explain how I felt disrespected that night when he yelled at me and that I was only trying to keep Parker safe. I even wrote out what I wanted to say and had it proofread so that I could ensure it sounded polite and not attacking. He responded with “well, things happen and there’s nothing we can do about it.” All I wanted was an apology.
At first, I was so sure I couldn’t be the asshole, as I truly did have good intentions. In hindsight though, what if he truly was good to drive and I was being dramatic? I got involved with something that didn’t involve me, and it cost me my relationship with my brother. AITA?