As you would imagine, my fiancé and I are getting married soon. We both do quite well financially (he makes a little more than me), have been living in an apartment we bought together around 2 years ago, and share all our finances. My fiancé is very into wine and regularly adds to his collection, has tastings with friends, reads about wine/wine history, etc. I’m not at all against his hobby and occasionally high spending on it, since I somewhat enjoy it too, but his “dream” he revealed to me recently was quite past the line for me. His only personal dream for our wedding is to have this certain special bottle of champagne he wants. I’m not at all against him sharing a special bottle of wine with me during our reception, the only problem is that his dream champagne bottle is around $20,000! WHAT?!! It will be a magnum bottle (1.5 liters instead of 750 ml) but still, that’s beyond insane for me! He thinks I’m being unreasonable by completely disapproving and not allowing him to buy it since it’s his dream, we can easily afford it (definitely not completely true at all), and I’ll be enjoying it as well. AITA?
Edit: $20k+ is a reasonably large percentage of the total wedding’s cost.
NTA. Imagine all the different things you could do with $20k. He just wants to show off at the reception. Most people wouldn’t know the difference between the $20k bottle and a bottle of Moët. 🙄
I think it depends a lot of “quite well financially” means a 6-figure job or like…millions upon millions in the bank. But either way, I personally don’t even think I could enjoy a glass of $20k champagne that I paid for — there is no taste that wouldn’t leave me filled with anxiety and dread that each sip I cost $1000.
Unless he’s a multi millionaire that has more money than he knows what to do with— this is just stupid. That’s a down payment on a house. At least spend 20k on something tangible and not on something he’s just going to piss out an hour later.
If nothing else, showily consuming an extravagant beverage like that in front of one’s guests—unless by chance your wedding is small enough that a magnum can make its all the way around the room—is vulgar in the extreme.
Exactly. It’s gaudy.