Hi Reddit, this is my first time posting here so dont mind the sloppy writing. + This story is not very serious
Basically, I, M15, and my friend, also M15, have very similar for you pages, which means I see a lot and I mean a lot of what he reposts. We both have taken interests in similar things like Five nights at freddies and that whole fandom but while I dont stay active and reposting videos of that community but my friend does. My problem doesn’t come from reposting videos; I mean, that would be stupid and petty, but I feel like the videos he reposts are just to affirm or show people he’s part of those communities. Or when he told me he failed a math quiz, and the next thing I know im seeing 3 videos he reposted about failing math quizzes. He’s also into a lot of history and takes a heavy focus on military history, but when he reposts stuff about his hobbies and interests, they are mostly talking about how "He’s a real history fan, not a poser," Which really ticks me off for some reason. He reposts the same videos about Five Nights at freddies due to the recent movie and old fans of the franchise calling out new fans for being posers.
I feel conflicted because these "Targeted reposts" really tick me off, but on the other hand, this is the biggest non-issue on the planet. I don’t plan on speaking to my friend about this for the reasons I said about it being an issue that is not problematic in any way. I know I’m in the wrong, but I want to know if anybody feels the same frustration as I do, even with something as simple and as innocent as TikTok reposts.
Anyways thank you for reading, and I hope anybody can relate to this.
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This is not me judging my friend for his interests, but having an irrational pet peeve about "inauthentic" or "Performative" Reposts. Aswell as this, I don’t hold this against him or point it out to him, I just get ticked off or annoyed when I see it
YTA. The whole point of reposting is that people repost what they’re interested in. What *should* he be reposting, in your mind? What’s the volume and frequency with which he’s allowed to repost? This is such a non-issue. Just hit “not interested” on the reposted video if you don’t want to see it or block accounts you find particularly annoying.
Nta, idk i think caring about whos a “real fan” is a little cringe. You’re not always gonna agree with your friends and you’re allowed to have different options, just dont be meannn about it. Anyway thoughtcrimees dont exist so if you’re just personally judging, who is it harming
YTA. You’re personalizing something that has nothing to do with you.
INFO: Are you only seeing reposts in your feed or have you actually gone to his profile and looked at ALL his reposts?
YTA. Why wouldn’t you repost things that you associate yourself with. Real question, what types of videos do you think people should be reposting?
Yes
YTA. This is the biggest non-issue of all time. Ignore it, who cares?
NAH. This is a super normal, low-stakes social media annoyance. Targeted reposts can feel performative or irritating even if they’re not meant that way. You’re not wrong for feeling annoyed, and you’re right not to make it a thing. Best move is just muting reposts and moving on.
You could literally just unfollow him if this is such an issue for you? Other people on the Internet don’t owe you anything, you’re responsible for curating your *own* experience, don’t police others. Your friend is doing what people on Facebook have been doing for years, sharing random dumb shit that you won’t always agree with or relate to. It’s not just a Tiktok thing, that’s just a “being on the Internet” thing, and if you can’t cope with that, then you should probably log off for a bit and re-evaluate how you engage with others and what you’re sinking your time and energy into.
“Real fan” vs “fake fan” culture is stupid, yes, but other than that this is literally such a non-issue that I’m compelled to think there’s some bigger issue you have with this person that you’re making about Tiktok. It’s not my job to figure that out though.
[Relevant advice.](https://i.imgur.com/ooo4GcK.png)
That said, I don’t think you’re a full-on asshole with this, you’re just a teenager and have big feelings about small shit, it’s a tale as old as time. Just treat this as a learning opportunity for yourself, it has nothing to do with your friend. NAH.
YTA. Spend more time offline because this is ridiculous
You meant to say “Aitah for judging my friend for posting content that he enjoys, even though I do the same thing and post content that I enjoy?”
You’re not an a**hole, but you are young and immature. If you care about your friendship at all, kindly get over yourself and grow up.
“dont mind the sloppy writing”
So when will you stop with the sloppy writing? On your third time posting here? The 20th?
Anyway:
‘ “He’s a real history fan, not a poser,” Which really ticks me off for some reason. ‘
It ticks you off because gatekeeping is kinda lame.
“this is the biggest non-issue on the planet”
Indeed. If this isn’t a big enough issue that you need to speak to your friend about it, simply decide that there are parts of your friend that’s not for you, and that you’ll let that be. All friendships have parts that are not compatible, that we tolerate or make room for.
NTA because you’ve not done anything yet – I congratulate you on your first step toward having an adult relationship!
Speaking as one who has been using social media for decades…
As long as the subject matter is innocuous, who cares?
“Performative reposting”? “Targeted reposts”?
You are assigning FAR too much significance to this stuff – and trying to psychoanalyze him in the process.
YTA.
NAH. You repost to train the algorithm. Theres no such thing as an inauthentic repost.