I was out with my girlfriend, my friend Rick and his girlfriend Jane. Jane and my girlfriend both ordered chicken caesar wraps and side salad. Rick and I got shaved beef sandwiches with fries. When the food arrived, Jane asked Rick if she could have a few fries. Rick said no, if she wanted fries, she should have ordered fries. She said that she did not want an entire order of fries, she wanted a few.
I said she could have some of mine. She said thanks and took a few. I did not think anything of this interaction. After we left, Rick asked me why I gave into Jane’s little game. I said huh? And he said Jane loves to play the “no I don’t want fries ooh can I have some of yours” game and it pisses him off. I didn’t really know what to say. I said that I don’t think it’s weird to want a few fries versus a whole order and I could spare a few. Rick said it was a dick move to give his girl fries when he was obviously trying to make a point and get her to just order what she wants instead of taking from him.
(Sorry if you saw the original Nancy version that’s what I get for using fake names lol)
AITA?
NTA, Rick sounds like a Prick
NTA. Rick should try dating someone he actually likes and leave Jane alone.
Seriously, Rick doesn’t even sound like he likes Jane. He sounds resentful and controlling. You did nothing wrong. Aside from this (i.e., not trying to say anything about you), in general, Jane should “get spare fries” from someone who likes her.
Exactly. Rick is not a nice guy. I bet he has a lot of opinions about how Jane should “behave”.
I guarantee you he would call her a fat slob after she starts ordering her own fries for a while.
I wouldn’t marry someone who won’t share fries. I did that once. Never again.
NTA. Whatever weird power struggle they have over fries isn’t your responsibility to enforce
Rick sounds controlling. It’s not his job to teach his gf lessons. He’s not her parent. He’s wrong. You’re right. NTA.
NTA. Rick sounds like he’s training a dog, not taking his mrs for dinner. Petty, controlling behaviour.
Maybe she just likes a few fries, maybe she just likes sharing. It’s no harm to anyone and doesn’t need to be stopped, so why is he trying to stop her? Control. Not a pleasant situation.
Soon he’ll be controlling what and how much she eats so she doesn’t get fat.
NTA,
**Rick is the one playing games, not his girlfriend.**
My husband and I usually order different sides and share. And yeah, I usually prefer a side salad, and I will take two or three fries from him just to get over the craving. My husband’s not a big salad guy, but he usually likes the olives and pepperoncinis that come with my salads. So I let him take them.
You need to talk to your buddy Rick. He thinks his girlfriend is playing mind games when the reality is she just likes having extra options. It’s a fairly simple concept to share a little when eating out. And also very common among couples.
He’s making a huge deal out of something small. His mindset sounds pretty unhealthy as well.
**It’s pretty out there that he wants to, ‘put her in her place.’**
How would you feel if somebody had that Outlook towards you? Towards your girlfriend? Towards your mother or sister?
He’s not going to wise him up unless someone talks to him. Any sounds like the type of guy that won’t listen if a woman tells him. You might have a chance of actually getting through to your friend.
I don’t think Rick is a dick for not giving fries, if this is constant behaviour from his gf, I can see why eventually he might be sick of it. I think he is a dick though for complaining to you about what you do with your own food.
Yeah, I’d want to know if the GF had a long track record of asking for “a few” and taking at least 25-50% of his fries. But if it really is “just a couple” because she absolutely cannot eat more than that, Rick’s being pretty ridiculous.
Rick was basically saying, “Don’t play Jane’s little game. Instead play my little game.” My philosophy is you don’t have to play ANY game a couple wants you to play. If you want to give her fries, give her fries. If you don’t, you don’t. Let them deal with the psychodramatic ramifications they choose to read into your actions.