My cousin (25F) and I live together and share a bathroom. For background, she’s generally a messy person. she tends to collect clutter and her room is never clean but that honestly doesn’t bother me because it’s her space and not my business. What has been bothering me is something that’s been happening consistently over the past few months, specifically when she’s on her period. I’ll go into the bathroom and find large wads of toilet paper left in the toilet, often unflushed, which ends up clogging it. On top of that, there are also wads of toilet paper in the trash can and sometimes just scattered around the bathroom.
This frustrates me for several reasons.. The toilet keeps getting clogged, the amount of toilet paper being used feels excessive and wasteful, I don’t think I should have to clean it up or deal with it, and frankly, it’s gross.. not to mention she’s constantly using up all the toilet paper. I’ve brought it up to her before, asking why there’s toilet paper everywhere. The first couple of times, she brushed it off and acted like she didn’t know what I was talking about, just saying “I don’t know.” When it continued and I asked again, she said, “Oh, sometimes I throw it in the trash instead of the toilet,” completely ignoring the bigger issue.
I genuinely don’t understand why this is happening or what’s going on, but I do know that if I bring it up again, she’ll probably get defensive especially since it’s related to her period. I’m stuck between being uncomfortable and not wanting to start a fight. How do I call her out on this in a way that actually fixes the problem?
I don’t know why this is in AITA, but nta and start buying your own separate toilet paper and see how much she uses when she’s the one paying for her own.
We both do but toilet paper ain’t cheap now days either way cuz she complains about the cost but acts like she doesn’t use all of it🤣
NTA
Sounds like a biohazard if she’s leaving used wads of toilet paper around.
I’d start talking about her sorting this issue out or her looking for another place to live.
If she needs this much toilet paper then I guess a bin (with bin bag) is better than just leaving in the toilet to clog it, but she should maybe have her own bin for this and actually put it all in this bin rather than leaving some of it on the floor. I would suggest that to her as a solution, and she obviously always empties her own bin. If she can’t make that work, I’d tell her that you don’t want to live like this and that she might be happier living alone somewhere else where her behaviour doesn’t bother others.
Yeah we will not be living together for too much longer hopefully but it just bothers me since I feel like I have to pick up after her all the time. She tells me she is going to move in with her boyfriend at some point but even he complains about her habits of messiness and ways of living😬🤷♀️
Hmm can you guys have a chore chart and it can be her responsibility to clean the bathroom including unclog it? NTA but this is definitely gonna be a learning curve for your cousin so
I was thinking the same thing honestly. I usually clean the bathroom since I’m a very ocd clean person but it’s jus started to feel unfair and like a nightmare since 97% of the mess and stuff in there is from her and it gives me a headache atp😭 i feel like if i say something she just ignores it though and says “im jus too busy with work to clean” and she uses the same excuse for her room which i have no business in her room aspect but the bathroom is a different story especially when we have guest over a lot.
I think you are just gonna have to barge in and say since you keep leaving the bathroom like that it is now your responsibility to clean
Clock it🤣🤏maybe I should jus try that