Hello, it’s my first post here, sorry if I misspell something, English it’s not my first language.
Let’s call my friend Amy, her parents were asking our friend group to go to her birthday party as a surprise, the fact is I don’t want to go because of a few things that happened in the past, around a year ago I encouraged to talk to a guy who I found really cute, I didn’t talk to him in person, cuz I’m really bad at meeting new people, specially men, I texted him and we started to chat, it was really weird, anyways I was really happy cause I don’t tend to talk to the people I like, all my friends knew I really liked him and wanted something else, they encouraged me to speak directly to him, but I was so insecure about my self that I couldnt even look at him in person, so I began with waving at him from distance, after like a month and half of text g him the conversations began a little boring, that’s when my friend Amy texted in our group and said that she was bored so she texted the guy I was talking to, at first I didn’t know but then I talked to my friends about it and began crying, which is not very common in me, they told her that I cried because of that, and she told me if she should quit texting her, I told her no, I know I shouldn’t have said no but at that moment I thought that if I told her to stop messaging him she would be mad at me, so a few months passed, I never talked to him in person, we stopped talking cuz he stopped replying and left me on read without explanation more often, I was angry at that so I left him on read the last time, when I told my friends about that, Amy told me that she left him on read too before, but one of my friends told me that they thought that he was the one who left her on read, anyways, another few months passed and Amy told us that the guy had texted her again, she asked if she should text him back, obviously she was going to text him back cuz it was obvious she also liked him, I told her no in a way that could be interpreted both sarcastic and serious, so she texted him back, after a few days my friends were planning a hangout, and casually Amy told us that the guy was invited her AND her friends to a hangout too, I told all of my friends, including her, that I didn’t wanted him in the hangout for various reasons, anyways he still went to the hangout, I was really upset with her and with the guy so I tried to ignore him all the time, but he sometimes tried to make a conversation, after the hangout Amy noticed that I wasn’t feeling well, so she asked if I was okay, I told her I was, cause I don’t like to talk much about my feelings, anyways they kept talking to this day I think, and I told one of my friends that I wanted to distance from her and that I didn’t wanted to go to her birthday. We are all teens, maybe im just exaggerating and just talk about it, but I don’t really know how to express her my feelings.
So, AITA? Be honest please
Jeeeesus this is so difficult to read lol. No offense, but you sound like a 12 year old. I don’t get all the details of the whole story (and frankly, I don’t care), but overall: you can choose to go or not go to any event you’re invited to. You’re NTA for not wanting to go, regardless of the reason.
Please learn how to use punctuation, and please learn how to be assertive and take what you want! I didn’t get every detail of the story, but it sounds like you’re pissed at her for talking to a guy you had/have a crush even though you never actually acted on it. You can’t just call dibs on someone if you’re just going to wait around and hope they come to you.
I’m sorry, I’m not good at English yet, also I didnt knew how to explain it, but it basically is what you said, I’m mad at her not because she texted him but because I told her I liked him even before texting him, and she didn’t thought of my feelings, also I’ll improve my writing, I’m sorry if it isn’t clear, you can ask me and I’ll clarify it
Ok so I don’t know what any of this has to do with the party, but you don’t have to go regardless of anything that has happened in the past. As for you being upset at the girl: you’ll learn as you grow up that you can’t expect people to put your feelings above theirs, especially when it comes to love/attraction. If you were dating this guy and she made a move, that’s one thing, but like I said, you can’t just call dibs on someone, do nothing about it, and be upset that someone else made a move. Dating is a dog eat dog world!!
Info: how old are you? You sound really young.
Spacing and punctuation is what you should be worried about not a party
Omg paragraphs and punctuation!! Does no one teach this anymore?! Jfc
1. The guy isn’t into you. That’s not Amy’s fault
2. Considering how much trouble you have with new people, you should try being nice with the friends you have.
3. Go to the party and have fun with your friends. Your happiness is not dependent upon some guy who you haven’t even spoken to in person.
It sounds like you’re just not comfortable around Amy right now, and that’s valid. You don’t owe anyone your presence, especially if it’s going to stress you out.