I, 16 (f), went on a school trip over the summer, and was casually talking to my friends about another friend on said trip who in the past had done weird things which made me uncomfortable, for example touching me, taking my phone and scrolling on it and trying to open my laptop to show them something that I didn’t want to show.
Somehow said friend thought me and other friends were talking bad about them, and fast forward to present day I found out a mutual friend whom I genuinely liked and appreciated, and I thought we were pretty good friends, hates me. This friend is very close with the one I had issues with, and now has apparently lost all respect for me because of the situation.
Am I the asshole for voicing my discomfort? Is my friend in the right for now hating me because I talked about it with my other friends?
Apparently the friend who now hates me, only continues to be nice to me because they believe I have no friends, and that they Pity me, which personally isn’t true because I’m always talking to people. Do I have thre right to be upset in this situation? Or am I the asshole?
You say a lot of ‘friends’ here and I can’t really tell who is who. INFO: did you talk directly to the ‘friend’ who initially did all the weird stuff? Were you just complaining about/bashing this friend to other friends, or were you confiding in them that you were uncomfortable?
The details of how you were ‘voicing your discomfort’ seem to matter a lot here. Overall, I’m going NTA since the friend doing the weird stuff was out of line. Unfortunately, you can’t control if people like you or hate you, all you can control is how you deal with situations that arise. If you were being catty and straight up just bashing/gossiping about the weird stuff, then I’d say Y T A, but I have no idea the tone of the conversation.
Ah to be young again listen well young one dont ever vent to someone who knows or can get into the situation only ever vent to a neutral party. If you learn this lesson it will serve you well. Soft yta dont do it again