First of all, I’d like to warn you that I’m not a native English speaker and that I’m using an online translation site.
So it all started six or seven months ago during a family gathering. I’m the kind of person who likes to tell anecdotes or share my thoughts.
A few years ago, I used to talk regularly with a medical student who once told me that doctors and nurses know when a baby is the result of adultery.
But he refused to tell me how, because it’s kind of a taboo in medicine, especially in France, where paternity tests are prohibited.
I thought he was talking nonsense, but a few months before the family gathering, I found out how they do it.
It takes a woman about three weeks to know she’s pregnant, and a pregnancy lasts nine months. Any baby born three weeks before the end of the pregnancy is considered premature.
A baby born out of adultery is a premature baby without the characteristics of a premature baby.
I personally think that this applies especially to premature babies without symptoms who are born normal, six weeks early.
This is because a woman who is pregnant as a result of adultery has several options: she can say directly that she is pregnant, but this is risky if she taking the pill or have not had sex for several weeks with is partner.
Or she could try to fake a pregnancy with her lawful partner and then, two or three weeks later, tell her partner that she is pregnant with his child.
But then you would have guessed that this creates a gap of several weeks between the start of the pregnancy and the end of the pregnancy, resulting in a premature baby but without the symptoms and characteristics of a premature baby.
Doctors can easily spot this kind of thing, but their role is not to create single mothers.
So we’re back to the family gathering where I explained this, except that my cousin has a baby who was born 6 weeks premature. I didn’t know he was premature without symptoms. He made the connection when he got home and told my story to his partner, who confessed everything.
Then he left the country so he wouldn’t have to pay child support. The laws in my country are messed up, and you have to pay child support even if you find out the child isn’t yours, if you’ve acknowledged it. My cousin makes good money, so he can work anywhere as long as he has an internet connection.
Since then, my family has been angry with me because it’s my fault that his partner is a single mother with no income, and because I don’t want to contribute money to the communal pot of a woman who has no blood ties to my family.
NTA, weird wat of finding out, but don’t do the crime if you can’t do the time
Literally the dumbest thing I’ve ever heard.
she cheated and lied about it, it’s on her, NTA
Why are paternity tests prohibited in France? That’s bullshit
They believe the % of men unknowingly raising someone else’s child is so high finding out the truth would destabilize society.
You can get them through the courts, but not out of random curiosity. Mainly to stop people from testing other people without their consent. Like that grandma on here who thought her sons wife was cheating so tested her grandkid and them without any of their consent.
They’re not 100% prohibited, but they can only be made in the context of a trial and after the baby’s birth.
A man refusing to comply with a paternity test demand can also be considered as admitting paternity.
NTA for being right, but it doesn’t make sense lol
ADULTERY HAS NO JUSTIFICATIONS. PERIOD.
This is the dumbest thing I’ve ever read.
From what I have read an early pregnancy ultrasound can best approximate the date of conception. But since that can be influenced by the exact date of ovulation or by sperm surviving up to five days, that doesn’t exactly pinpoint the date the person had the causative act. So please forgive me if I don’t exactly believe your anecdote. The woman in question should have a DNA test. Since your cousin skipped town, she could at least establish a familial link by testing his parents, I think. If the test comes back positive, seeing that you started all of this, you should pay. I am serious. He was looking for a way out and you ran your mouth about stuff you have no scientific knowledge of. ESH for you and your cousin.
ESH. You were lucky you were right, because that reasoning is kind of BS. There are plenty of women who do not have affairs that just don’t know their pregnant because sometimes pregnancy symptoms don’t show up, the at home pregnancy test could be wrong and they don’t go to a hospital to het tested, or there are some health reasons that pregnancy symptoms don’t show up.
Except, that doesnt always work out. My daughter was born 8 weeks early, only issue was jaundice which is normal even in full term babies. There has been no cheating on either side so… this is just BS.
You know this is nonsense, right? Leave aside the dumb nothing to do with actual science idiocy you say the student told you (multiple reasons for shorter term births) the thing with adulterers is they’re having sex with 2 people in the same time span.
This sounds like that US mysogyny nonsense where men keep getting encouraged to do paternity tests as a norm.