AITA? For context my son (21m) is away at college graduating this year, and left his passport at his friends (24m) house, and needs a picture of it to apply for an internship.
Last weekend I drove over to get it from the friends house (let’s call him Bart) and he invited me in for a cup of coffee. Long story short coffee turned to wine (it was late afternoon) and by 8 pm I was feeling abit tipsy and Bart offered to drive me home. On the way back to mine we were stopped at a stop sign and an SUV slammed into the back of Bart’s Prius. Everyone was okay despite some minor injuries (I strained my neck and Bart has since had to go back into therapy). My husband and daughter were both very concerned and relieved I was ok- however, when my son (Lets call him John) found out, he was more concerned with why Bart and I had been hanging out in the first place.
For more context, Bart told me he was having trouble with his dating life and was quite distraught when I met with him for the passport. I wanted to offer him some advice but my son seems to think there was something more going on.
YTA you tried to be nice by picking up his pasport. but I wouldnt be comfortabel with my mom hanging out with my friends and drinking with them. It is weird. Why do you even think drinking was a good idea if you had to drive?
Drinking wine to the point of being tipsy alone with someone the same age as your son is sus to me, if it was my mom and my friend I would be weirded out as well. YTA
Yta it’s pretty weird for you to be hanging out at his friends house for hours, drinking, and getting too tipsy to drive home. I’d be concerned if I was your son as well
YTA. It got weird when “coffee turned into wine.”
YTA I was all for you and Bart and its nobodies business til you dropped the husband part at the end!
By your behaviour you earn how your kids view you. Your son just gave you a heads up that he is concerned by your behaviour but you chastised him. So don’t be surprised in the future when your kids think you are the weird older mother.
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trust your son here. you dont know how many times his friend has said “dang your moms hot”
stepping inside was a risky move, coffee was risky, wine was VERY risky.
OK, so you drove to your son’s friend’s house for a completely legitimate reason and then drank so much over a period of 4 hours (due to the fact that hey, it was late afternoon, when all the moms are out getting drunk with their kids’ friend, and also, the friend needed dating advice from his pal’s tipsy mom for 4 hours) that said friend had to drive you home. And you don’t see a problem here? YTA
P.S. Not suggesting that anything sexual in nature occurred, which you’re hinting your son thought. Just that this was not an appropriate interaction.
YTA. What you did was weird, not only because it’s your son’s friend but because you’re also married. Having coffee would have been fine but then driving wine and needing him to drive you home is just strange.
Definitely YTA. Your son asked you to go this friend’s house to pick up the passport he left behind and take photos of it. Instead you stayed for hours, drank wine and got drunk. Then you got into a car crash. I can definitely understand why your son assumed the worst
YTA – You can’t “long story short” coffee into wine.
First off, why even go in for coffee? Why wasn’t it as simple as “I’m here for my son’s passport. Thanks. Bye.”
Second, why was this dude talking to you about his dating life at all?
Third, what possessed you to drink wine with the guy?
Like I honestly don’t know what to make of this story at all. It comes across at least that one of you wanted to fuck the other but I can’t figure out which way that goes.
INFO: It’s 2026. Why does anyone need to go to Bart’s house to get a picture of a passport? That can be done in less than 60 seconds with any smart phone. And why was the passport at Bart’s house to begin with?
YTA – it is really weird to get drunk with your son’s friend like that. If your intention was just to go over and pick up the passport, I think it should’ve been left at that. So I can see why your son was upset, but I don’t think there was more going on (based on what was said here unless the full truth isn’t being told). It’s just not really appropriate to go and get drunk with a friend of your son’s.
This sounds shady as fuck, Mom. Not a good look.