Okay throw away account because I don’t really use Reddit but this is honestly so insane that I need some info from an outside perspective. Ok I(19F) live with my boyfriend(22M) of 4 years in the US mainland. I’ll call him Kai. My family lives on the islands of Hawaii and my mom decided to fly me out for my birthday in March. I spoke to her about bringing my bestfriend we’ll call her Rachel (19F) as well as my boyfriend. She said that that’s fine but that we would need to get an Airbnb instead of staying at their house since they’re renovating and theres already not a lot of room in the house. That was perfectly fine with me and (I thought) we both moved on. Fast forward a few weeks and my boyfriend, Rachel and I are all planning for the trip and we decide to call my mom to check if the Airbnb we were getting was close enough and just finalize some plans in general. My mom seemed fine on the phone and even suggested cheaper places for us since she’s local and knows the area.(she grew up there for most of her life and moved back recently). For some context I haven’t seen my mom since September when they moved and I left for college, this trip is mostly centered around me visiting them for my birthday. This is our plan: I get there a few days earlier than Kai and Rachel to spend time with family plus that way they don’t have to get as much time off work and school. Then once they’re there we will do most if not all our outings with my family as long as they’re free. This is where it gets weird. My mom starts texting me saying she doesn’t want Rachel to come anymore and tells me I didn’t discuss it with her. She says she feels like I’m turning it into a friend trip instead of hanging out with her and the family. I say I plan on being with them as much as possible. I responded to her argument by telling her the plan once again. GET THIS she twists it into that she thinks my bestfriend and my boyfriend are HAVING AN AFFAIR? (My best friend is a lesbian and my boyfriend worships the ground I walk on) for context my family is very conservative and old fashioned and they do not know Rachel is a lesbian. We plan to tell them soon we were just worried there would be judgement there but I’ve known her since middle school and they all love her. Anyways my mom goes on to say she doesn’t want there to be temptation and now she’s telling me to invite another friend for Rachel to stay with and Kai and i should stay in the family home. Am I the asshole for inviting my best friend to Hawaii for my birthday? Hopefully this was clear enough and hopefully can get some real advice here thanks guys