Me (23F) and my boyfriend (24M) live with another couple. For basically the entire time we’ve lived together, they’ve said they were moving out of state once our lease is over.
Recently our washer and dryer stopped working, so the apartment complex gave us access to a vacant one-bedroom unit to do laundry. After using it a couple of times, my boyfriend and I started talking about maybe asking management if we could rent it when it becomes available.
We mentioned this to our roommates, and that’s when things got weird. They suddenly said they’re not moving anymore and that they also want that same apartment. This was the first time they’d ever said anything like that.
Now they’re acting like we’re trying to go behind their backs or take something from them, but from our side, we only even considered it because we were told for months that they were leaving.
AITA for still wanting to ask about the apartment?
NTA, they probably saw that the apartment was better and now just want it because you guys want it.
NTA. They never communicated anything to you.
NTA. Can’t be TA if you made this choice without knowing their intentions to use the apartment + if they said they were gonna leave the state or move then you definitely wouldn’t assume they were going after the apartment.
NTA your roommate’s plan was to move out of state. the apartment is up for anyone who wants it and you have every right to inquire about it. You’re not going to behind anyone’s back. That’s just silly. Go ahead and talk to management about it.
NTA but I think you need to stop worrying about your roommates. It’s not your responsibility to consider their plans may change for the nth time and you cannot predict their behaviour.
NTA. You are not mind readers, you did nothing wrong. If you have not already, talk to management about getting the apartment and signing the appropriate paperwork. Do it before your room mates do it.
They are adults and not your concern. If they continue to whine about it, remind them their plan was to move out of state, if your plans can change, so can ours. After that, tell them you’re not talking about it anymore. Ignore them and please get that apartment.
So what if they want it? They might not qualify or get approved by management. Put your application in and let management decide who gets it. NTA
I’ll start by acknowledging that I chose to read and respond to this post.
Next… are you for real? Why did you write this post? Do you truly think you might be an *asshole* for not guessing that your roommates secretly wanted an apartment that they not only never mentioned, but *explicitly ruled out* by saying they were moving out of state?! You seriously need us to validate that you aren’t the ones being obnoxious in this situation?
NTA, but sheesh.
NTA. They SAID they were moving “out of state,” but they really planned on finding different housing… without you two. They didn’t immediately talk to management because they didn’t know about the apartment. If they had found the smaller place, they planned to move out, leaving you two with a big apartment, and no roomie, and possibly no place to move to quickly.
Their selfishness is quite plain. Don’t give them another thought. Grab the apartment and don’t invite them to your housewarming.
NTA You can’t go behind someones back when you dont know they want it. Sounds like they are difficult so just put in an application and see what happens, if they do too its down to the landlord to decide…. and actually I’d start looking for another place anyway to get away from them!
NTA. I dont even understand their reasoning
NTA. Hurry up and put the deposit down then you can just end the discussion with, so sorry, we already put the deposit down! My bad.
NTA. Go ask before they do.