I (21M) was at a soccer game with my mom (54f) and my little siblings. As we were walking around the stadium, I said that I was going to buy a beer. Shortly after, I realized I forgot my ID and told my family that I couldn’t buy a beer
After this, my siblings and I returned to our seats and my mom went to the washroom. Upon her return, she had a beer in hand and gave it to me. I drank it, and after the game, she told me that I owe her 8 dollars for it
I responded that I didn’t consent to the transaction and should therefore not have had to pay. She said that I’d have no problem having paid with my own money if I had my ID on me
She told me that this situation was because I have an expectation of her to pay for things, so I’d like an outsider perspective to see if this is true. She said that if this happened with my brother, a friend, or a girlfriend, I would have no problem paying back. Thinking about it, the only situation listed where I would expect to pay back is with a girlfriend. This probably shows that it is expectation-based to some extent.
If I am in the wrong I’d like to know, but my argument is mostly based on the principle of not explicitly consenting to the transaction. I guess this gets into a philosophical discussion about tacit consent but what say you, redditor?
ESH
You would have paid the exact same amount for the beer if you had bought it but you forgot your ID. Your mother shouldn’t have bought it without checking with you. Give her the money and ask her not to do it again.
YOU ARE AN ASSHOLE
Pay it and pay for hers. YTA
YTA you wanted a beer and couldn’t get one so your mother got it for you , give her the money and stop being such a spoiled little brat.
I hope she charged you for the lift home and starts charging you rent if you still live at home.
YTA
YTA. Any idea at what point you’ll grow up and not see your parents as people you can leech off of?
Is $8 worth the headache of fighting with your mom? One thing you will eventually learn in life is that being right doesn’t always mean you are happy. Is your ego over $8 more important than a peaceful relationship with your mom?
YTA
You very much indicated to your mother that you wanted a beer, and when she got you one and asked you to pay her back later, instead of being grateful you went on a rant about how you don’t owe her anything? I don’t know your family’s dynamic, but that does seem like a very asshole way to respond.
Instead of arguing, just give her the $8. She’s right, you would have been paying the money if you had your ID and arguing shows that you have the entitlement that she is talking about.
YTA. You wanted the beer and announced you were getting one. When when you realized you forgot your ID you announce you wouldn’t be getting one without it. She bought you one because you literally told your family you wanted it. You should be thanking her and paying her back.
YTA. You wanted a beer and couldn’t buy it because you forgot your ID. Your mom went out of her way to get you one, you were happy to accept it, and now you don’t want to pay her back?
Someone went out of their way to get you something you wanted but couldn’t get yourself and you repay them with maximum disrespect. You make me glad I didn’t have kids. You are more than an ahole.
Djises, you had no problem moaning about not getting to buy a beer, no problem drinking it when someone was so kind to cover the cost for you, but when it comes to paying 8$ you make a whole reddit post bout it? Lol ok
YTA. Your mum didn’t buy you a beer, she bought one on your behalf. She is right, if you had your ID you would have spent the $8. Stop being cheap.