My fiancée (27F) and I (28M) are currently planning our wedding and looking for a venue. We want to get married in the middle of autumn, ideally on a Saturday. We’ve narrowed it down to two options:
A) One venue that is fine but nothing special, with lots of available dates.
B) Another venue that is basically perfect for us, exactly the kind of place we’ve always imagined for our wedding (in the middle of the mountains where I grew up, beautiful view, you can get the picture).
However, my brother (36M) and his wife (35F) told us ahead of time that we cannot plan our wedding on that specific date. They already have a birthday party planned. Apparently, my brother, his wife, and several of her family members decided to celebrate their birthdays together that weekend at a chalet they booked in advance.
My brother has a lot of influence in my side of the family (it’s just me and my dad), and my dad tends to avoid conflict. When this came up, my dad advised us to choose a different venue or date to avoid family drama.
Honestly, I’m struggling with this. I understand they planned something first, but it feels unfair that my fiancée and I are expected to give up our ideal venue and date for a birthday party that could presumably be celebrated another time. Now I’m wondering if I’m being selfish or unresonable for even considering sticking with that date and venue.
So, AITA for wanting our wedding on the date that works best for us, even though it conflicts with my brother’s birthday plans?