My (35) mother (71) passed away two years ago and left her home to my sisters (38 and 37) and I. Since her diagnosis, treatment, and eventual death ( love you, ma!), I’ve been managing nearly everything including holding mini-estate sales to clear the house of items and preparing it for use as a rental for all of us cash flow for us. I’m exhausted. I’ve handled everything from the funeral expenses to the estate administration, to speaking with lawyers and FAs about retirement accounts.
My main gripe in this entire ordeal is that I haven’t been getting any help in any form from my sisters at all. The way I’ve seen it, the logic for them is "we have lives, we want to help, but we can’t of xyz".
What really irritated me just now is that I had asked for their share of the property tax and the rebuttal was "we don’t live there anymore, why should we pay?" but at the same time, my sisters both mentioned that if cash flow does come in they’re entitled to a share. It seems only fair to me that if we’re going to honor our parent’s home as a gift to us, it should be *equal burden, equal reward*
On a side note: The way our irrev. trust has been set up is that I am sole administrator of the home and must pay property taxes, insurance, etc but once the house is sold it must be split three ways.
I just feel left out and feel disowned from my siblings for trying to serve my family well. I feel like I can’t even move on with my romantic life or my career because handling this affair has been so hard with two people who aren’t even in the same city. They both live in HCOL areas mind you.