I recently started posting on TikTok just for fun, and some of my videos have been getting views. Nothing huge, but enough that people are engaging with them.
My partner has been trying to become famous online for years. He posts content and really wants to “make it,” but it hasn’t worked out for him so far.
Since my videos started getting attention, he’s been noticeably jealous. He’s made comments about how it’s unfair because he’s been trying longer, and that I don’t deserve the attention as much as he does. What really hurt was when he said that *he deserves nicer things than me* because he’s been working toward fame longer.
I don’t brag or rub it in his face. I was excited at first and thought he’d be supportive, but instead it feels like he’s competing with me and resenting me.
I’ve confronted him about it but he just keeps telling me how I’m mean and that I should try to be in his shoes. So now I’m wondering AITA for refusing to delete my TikTok videos even though it upsets him?
You’ve discovered that you’re never going to be allowed to be more successful than him in anything, ever. Please just leave him.
NTA.
NTA. Sounds like you need to delete the boyfriend. Not your fault his content isn’t good.
Dump him. He’s going to cause more problems down the line.
And keep your phone away from him – he might delete your account out of jealousy.
NTA but honestly, why even be with someone like that to begin with?
If he’s been ‘trying longer’ and still can’t get views and follows it means his content sucks.
NTA but he’s being super shitty about it and if it continues, definitely re-evaluate the relationship because do you really want to be around someone who has a baby tantrum any time you’re successful?
NTA TikTok algorithm is very unpredictable. Your partner should take a break from making content. He should just make content for fun anyway.
*’He’s made comments about how it’s unfair”*
*”I don’t deserve the attention as much as he does.”*
“*he deserves nicer things than me* because he’s been working toward fame longer.”
Time for you’re partner to grow up and realize that is not how life works and the fact that he thinks that it does will keep him from ever achieving the success he things he *deserves*
NTA and he sounds toxic. Prepare for a life of minimizing yourself if you think this is your future.
Make a TikTok about this and see what your audience says
Delete him, not your videos. Do you really want to be with someone who resents your successes?
Don’t ever dim your light, make yourself small, or downplay your gifts in an effort to make anyone feel better about themselves or to get them to like you.
This is a life lesson and you are so lucky to be learning it now.
The right people will praise you, encourage you, and celebrate you. That’s how you’ll know they are the right people.
They’ll also lovingly tell you when you’re becoming egotistical, too big for your britches, and overbearing. It might hurt but when they say it, it won’t be in a mean way or about them. You’ll see the difference and you’ll understand.